When a Wife Feels Lonely


When a wife feels lonely  or finds herself feeling clingy towards her husband, it reflects her need to seek the Lord and examine her heart. Failure to do so can lead her to create unreasonable expectations from her husband, who was never purposed by God to fulfill her every need. Key questions she needs to ask herself to gain perspective of who she places her hopes in are:
◆ “Am I putting God first in my life and seeking Him more than I seek to be satisfied by my spouse’s presence?”
◆ “After I spend quality time with my spouse, am I still longing for more from him that stems from a discontented feeling inside?”
◆ ” Do I feel unusually lonely all of the time? And if so, am I neglecting to develop interests and take care of my own personal needs aside from my spouse and the things we do together?”
When we feel lonely, our first instinct may be to look to our spouse or other people to replace the loneliness in our hearts. However, God designed our hearts in such a way that we would turn to Him. Other people can never fully satisfy us. Only the Lord has that ability to search out every hidden, lonely place in our hearts and fill them with His abiding love.
Joshua 1:5 ~ “No man shall be able to stand before you all the days of your life; as I was with Moses, so I will be with you. I will not leave you nor forsake you.”
No man can be there for us every day of our life. Our husbands cannot be there to fulfill our every need. We will experience moments and even seasons of being alone in our lives–whether emotionally or physically–but we are blessed to have God who never leaves or forsakes us.
Joshua 1:9 ~ ” Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” “
Scripture tells us plainly who we are to place our hope in to fill us with joy and peace–God not man!
Romans 15:13 ~  “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.
The Lord is to be our source of joy and peace not our husbands. What we receive from our spouse is to be a bonus or surplus, but not the only source of what fulfills us. C.S. Lewis describes it beautifully:
” Most people, if they had really learned to look into their own hearts, would know that they do want, and want acutely, something that cannot be had in this world. There are all sorts of things in this world that offer to give it to you, but they never quite keep their promise.”
Nothing can fulfill us completely other than Jesus.  Material possessions, the most outgoing friends, our husbands–none can satisfy our lonely places like the Lord. Amen♡
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