Beauty for Ashes

Have you ever watched a house burn down to the ground? When I was a young girl, I along with a crowd in my neighborhood watched as a house aflame blazed down to the ground. Firefighters rained water from a nearby hydrant to no avail. At first they worked tirelessly and then seemed to give up. They let it burn and stood watch to prevent it from spreading. We listened to the flames crackle. Hours later there remained the rubble of what was once a home and of course, ashes.

When a marriage is dying, it is like a burning relationship. The flaming darts of the enemy have hit their targets and a host of other factors contribute to the marriage going down in flames. But God! The ashes that remain—God can take those ashes and give beauty for ashes. God can give an unexpected good future and restore the joy that was stolen. Instead of your shroud of mourning, God is replacing it with a veil of joy that shall cover you with His favor. Your spouse shall see it upon you with the eyes of his heart and once again, you will know the beauty of love together again. The beauty of a marriage burned to the ground is that ONLY GOD CAN restore it. The immensity of that fact is only God is qualified to take what the enemy meant to destroy and kill a marriage and use it to resurrect that marriage so that it bring Him glory 💝

Isaiah 61 Jubilee version ~

61 ” The Spirit of the Lord GOD is upon me because the LORD has anointed me; he has sent me to preach good tidings unto those who are cast down; to bind up the wounds of the broken-hearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to those that are bound;

2 to proclaim the year of the LORD’s favour, and the day of vengeance of our God; to comfort all that mourn;

3 to order in Zion those that mourn, to give unto them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the LORD, that he might be glorified.

4 ¶ And they shall build the old wastes; they shall raise up the former desolations, and they shall restore the waste cities, the desolations of many generations.

5 And strangers shall stand and feed your flocks, and the sons of the alien shall be your plowmen and your vinedressers.

6 But ye shall be named the Priests of the LORD; men shall call you the Ministers of our God; ye shall eat the riches of the Gentiles, and with their glory ye shall be lifted up.

7 Instead of your double shame, and your dishonour, they shall praise you in your inheritance; therefore in your land ye shall possess double, and ye shall have everlasting joy.

8 For I the LORD love that which is right, I hate robbery for burnt offering; and I will confirm your work in truth, and I will make an everlasting covenant with them.

9 And their seed shall be known among the Gentiles and their offspring among the peoples; all that saw them shall acknowledge them that they are the seed which the LORD has blessed.

10 ¶ I will greatly rejoice in the LORD; my soul shall be joyful in my God; for he has clothed me with the garments of saving health; he has surrounded me with the robe of righteousness; as a bridegroom he has arrayed me, and as a bride made up of his jewels.

11 For as the earth brings forth her shoot and as the garden causes her seed to spring forth so the Lord GOD will cause righteousness and praise to spring forth before all the Gentiles.” ”

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A Godly Marriage


There are many key components of a healthy, God-honoring marriage and I’d like to share a couple:📣Prayer and agreement. The willingness to agree–even if it’s to disagree. The ability to lay the irritant, the problem, down in order to come together to Pray is like air to your marriage. Without prayer, our marriages will simply suffocate and instead of a rich, dynamic relationship between husband, wife, and God, there exists a dying one-sided living arrangement. It will be one-sided without God’s input because it will be flesh-driven–led by selfishness and limited human understanding. We need prayer because we need God’s help and with Jesus at the center of our marriages, we open up another side–a supernatural side that blesses and prospers our ability to love like Jesus loves His church. That is a sweet covenant bringing God honor and glory that has Jesus at its center. Pray first. Pray and then think. Pray and then feel. Pray before you respond. You think you’re right or wrong–Pray.

📣 Sex. God created marriage so that we can healthily be passionate and fruitful within its sacred confines. Just because marriage is sacred doesn’t mean it must be ritualistic or forced or boring. A husband and wife should seek to cultivate an intimate relationship–physical, spiritual and emotional all at once as they seek God’s help in demonstrating and exerting their passions in a way that does not defile their marriage bed. Sex should never make either spouse feel humiliated or be intentionally hurtful. It should be an enjoyable time to celebrate their union by physically culminating the spiritual truth that they are one-flesh. Keep your marriage bed pure and unadulterated by avoiding pornography and adultery. Pornography is about getting a release and God designed everything about marriage to be about love and service–seeking the needs of our spouse before our own. Praying together can deepen intimacy so pray and ask God to bless your marriage bed. A married couple’s sex life is not beyond God’s scope. He can heal any sexual trauma that is hindering you and He can turn up the fire of passion between you and your spouse! Some people will try anything to boost their excitement in their sex life. I dare you to pray and try God! He will rev it up and increase the love you are able to express during love-making. May God bless our marriage beds! 

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Call to Prayer (National Day of Prayer)


Never stop praying for your spouse. Marriage is a lifetime promise to love even when you don’t feel loved or like loving that spouse. Marriage is a covenant that wasn’t designed primarily to fulfill our personal happiness but to demonstrate the unconditional and sacrificial love of Christ. We can only love like Christ by the grace and guidance of God. Love itself is arduous and will require sweat (effort), tears (willingness to endure and persevere in spite of pain), faith, continual prayer, and commitment to remain faithful to your spouse and to God in the covenant called marriage. Amen 💝 🙏🏽Prayer🙏🏽

May God bless all marriages in Him today that they may be restored where they are broken or out of order. May God bring couples who are in conflict from their opposing points of view into agreement down on their knees into prayer to seek His will together. May God expose the darkness and may every husband and wife have the willingness and courage to confess their sins, repent of them, and devote themselves to building up their marriages. In Jesus’ name, Amen! #NationalDayOfPrayer #PrayEveryday 🙏🏽

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Marriage Teachings

God led me to just minister on the topic of marriage this first day of May. I pray this blesses you and encourages you to seek His will in your marriage.

It took me a long time to learn this but once I let go and let Jesus take the wheel, God had more room to work with in my marriage. It is not a wife’s job to act as the Holy Spirit to condemn and convict her husband. It is God’s command that she respect him and love him through his faults– allowing God to set him right with the conviction by the Holy Spirit. A husband can be won over to the right response and conduct without a word but by seeing the love and justice of God through a wife’s forgiveness and unconditional love.

1 Peter 3:1-2, Amplified :

“In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate, not as inferior, but out of respect for the responsibilities entrusted to husbands and their accountability to God, and so partnering with them] so that even if some do not obey the word [of God], they may be won over [to Christ] without discussion by the godly lives of their wives, 2 when they see your modest and respectful behavior [together with your devotion and appreciation—love your husband, encourage him, and enjoy him as a blessing from God].”

The way she lives her life in obedience to God’s Word can be used by God to shed light on any wickedness in operation in such a powerful way–like a torch which bears the love and Light of the Lord Jesus. God can use her obedient life as a means of opening her husband’s eyes–removing the scales, especially if he is an unbeliever so he is able to see error that he may correct it. 

The beauty of a submissive wife is in her willingness to surrender her will to God’s will without fear. She trusts that if her husband’s leadership lands them in trouble, they may stumble as a unit; but God has the power to prevent those bad decisions and sin from making a complete end of them. 

It is never God’s plan to see a wife be trodden down by her husband. It is never God’s plan that a husband’s headship be challenged at every turn. 

Wives are to submit unless it is sin. When sin is involved, it is important that she privately and respectfully point it out to him in light of what God’s Word says about it. She need only do this in a prayerful and considerate manner not repetitive or in a contentious way. 

Submitting does not mean a wife has no voice. A wife’s voice has an important place in the marriage and can often be used by God to warn a wayward husband; but she must be careful that her voice does not speak louder or supersede God’s voice in an effort to get her way or take control out of fear or selfish motives.

God’s plan for marriage is outlined and specified in Ephesians 5:22-33

“22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 

28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 

29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 

32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”

In a grand perspective of God’s plan for marriage, it is to ultimately bring Him glory and demonstrate how Christ loved the church. Godly marriages demonstrate oneness, unity, harmony not strife, competition, ambivalence (mixed feelings about our spouses or what God says we must do in in His Word). 
This is why it is first pointed out in Ephesians 5:20-21 the importance of: “giving thanks always for all things to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, 21 submitting to one another in the fear of God.” 

It is important for a husband and wife to submit to each other out of reverence to God. They must be willing to come together in agreement with thankful spirits and humble hearts in order to seek the wisdom and loving guidance of the Creator of marriage. This is God-honoring and the world–believers and unbelievers alike–need to see more marriages operating righteously in Christ and bringing God glory. Amen 🙏🏽 

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Two Heads


As wives, we have to decide if we are going to trust in the plan and instructions that God has given us. Check Ephesians 5 about us submitting to our husbands. We are told! Yes, we are firmly instructed that our husbands are our heads. We can’t just read and skip over those verses to zero in on husbands loving their wives like Christ. We have to accept God’s will for our husbands’ headship and honor God in our marriages. OR, we will be like Jonah who was stuck in the belly of a great fish because he was rebelliously trying to do his own thing instead of following God’s instructions.
When we are in rebellion–fighting to have control and struggling with our husbands to have our way and to do our own things–we are creating our own stinking fish belly. When we refuse to submit to our husbands’ headship, then we are no longer in a marriage so-to-speak. We are in the belly of a beast–a monster — because anything that has two heads is certainly deformed and a monstrosity! When we run from what God has told us to do and refuse to submit to our husbands, God will allow us to suffer in the rank, dank, dark, uncomfortable circumstances that our rebellion has brought about.

My, my, my!!!! BUT GOD!!!

When we seek God, confess our sin of refusing to, first, submit to HIM and confess our sin of refusing to submit to our husbands, THEN, He will hear us and have mercy on us. Then, He will help us to get out of our mess. But when God delivers us from the mess, we can’t step onto dry land thinking we’re safe and go right back to our rebellious ways.

No!

We must face our Ninevah natures–our rebellious inclinations, beliefs, ways of conducting ourselves, our clinging on to living according to the feminist “I’m an independent woman. Hear me roar!!!” worldly way of thinking. We must do what God told us to do from the start:

“22 Wives, it should be no different with your husbands. Submit to them as you do to the Lord, 23 for God has given husbands a sacred duty to lead as the Anointed leads the church and serves as the head. (The church is His body; He is her Savior.) 24 So wives should submit to their husbands, respectfully, in all things, just as the church yields to the Anointed One.” (Ephesians 5)

When the wife– false head or pseudo- head–shrinks back, the authentic head–husband — can, then, operate fully in His God-given position and lead his wife and children, as God intended in marriage.

Submit to your husband as you submit to God in all things, except sin. For we know that God is Holy and has nothing to do with sin. 

Amen! God bless!

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Praise Confuses the Enemy


Praise will confuse the enemy. Praise precedes the victory. First, you must trust God no matter what troubles the enemy brings upon you! God will see you through to the victory as you worship and praise Him, dance, and sing your way through! Let your dance crush the strategy of the enemy as God confuses their signals, their surveillance and sneaky attacks! Dance by faith and not by sight as you walk faster and bolder–not filled with trepidation but hope for a triumphant outcome. As your hands clap in the natural, may the power of the Holy Spirit reinforce a resounding signal in the spiritual realm that the enemy’s reign of terror is finished as God lifts up His standard against him! No more whining and crying about how the enemy is tearing your marriage apart! Praise your way through the attacks! Pray for your spouse, and watch God wipe out the enemy camp! The enemy is under your feet IN JESUS’ NAME!!! Advance now in the boldness and love of the Father 💝2 Chronicles 20:15-22, CEV ~ “…the Lord says that you don’t need to be afraid or let this powerful army discourage you. God will fight on your side! 16 So here’s what you must do. Tomorrow the enemy armies will march through the desert around the town of Jeruel. March down and meet them at the town of Ziz as they come up the valley. 17 You won’t even have to fight. Just take your positions and watch the Lord rescue you from your enemy. Don’t be afraid. Just do as you’re told. And as you march out tomorrow, the Lord will be there with you.

18 Jehoshaphat bowed low to the ground and everyone worshiped the Lord. 19 Then some Levites from the Kohath and Korah clans stood up and shouted praises to the Lord God of Israel.

20 Early the next morning, as everyone got ready to leave for the desert near Tekoa, Jehoshaphat stood up and said, “Listen my friends, if we trust the Lord God and believe what these prophets have told us, the Lord will help us, and we will be successful.” 21 Then he explained his plan and appointed men to march in front of the army and praise the Lord for his holy power by singing:
“Praise the Lord!

    His love never ends.”

22 As soon as they began singing, the Lord confused the enemy camp, 23 so that the Ammonite and Moabite troops attacked and completely destroyed those from Edom. Then they turned against each other and fought until the entire camp was wiped out!”

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“Love”


“Love”This painting illustrates the Bride before the Bridegroom Jesus. The depictions of the dove representing the Holy Spirit and the pomegranate sliced open, spilling seeds, as well as, the water jug tipped over washing her foot, are rich with revelation. This speaks so much to my heart about marriage:

What brings us to our knees brings us to the secret place where we stop running and sit with Jesus. When the troubles can cause a husband and wife to work together instead of sin running them apart, Jesus is their present help. Troubles can be made to serve us in our marriages as God’s promise in Romans 8:28 causes them to work for our good! Husbands in order to lead must learn how to serve. Leaders have authority in a position that is seated, which means that a husband must have humility and be willing to wash his wife’s feet. He must be willing to learn his wife–her flaws and her weaknesses–not so that he can exploit them or manipulate her by them but so he can wash her with God’s Word. By the power of the Holy Spirit, a husband is seated in a Holy place as he says Lord use me in her sanctification. Let our brokenness bear fruit Lord, as a pomegranate is pregnant with seeds and no flesh; Let our brokenness bear seeds of blessings that will yield good fruit in our marriage. Let my wife feel that my embrace is her sanctuary and we can sit together before the Lord with the best of our brokenness, the best of our passion and love for each other spilled out before You. Make our marriage sweet with the fragrance of Your presence as we sit down with the One seated at the Right-Hand of the Father. Abide with us, near us, and in us Oh Lord. In Your precious name adorned with Eternal Love. Amen 🙏🏽 

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Stand and Be Strong!


There comes a time when you have to stop begging and crying over the storms in your marriage when your spouse is caught in sin. You have to stop mourning and grab hold of God’s Word. Grasp it tightly, and do not let go!!! Call to God’s remembrance the promises in His Word. Ask for His hand to ACT to MOVE in your situation! 

🙏🏽🙌🏽Prayer🙏🏽🙌🏽

“I have prayed Oh Lord! I have fasted! I have done everything that I can do. Now, it’s Your time! I am excited to stand with confidence in expectation of WHAT ARE GOING TO DO LORD. Thank You in advance for all that You have been doing in my marriage and for what You’re about to do! The wickedness in my marriage cannot continue Lord! Get the glory in this marriage so that sin cannot reign any longer! In Jesus’ name Amen! 

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Moving Forward After Restoration 


When a marriage is restored, the heavens rejoice! The reconciled husband and wife certainly rejoice! Their children, friends, and family who support them in their marriage journey rejoice, and life can quickly move forward for the couple as God helps them to build a new future with each other day by day. 

Moving forward after marriage restoration with your spouse is like assembling a new piece of furniture. You will need God’s instructions and the right tools. One of the most important tools is the ability to forgive– to look forward instead of gazing at the destruction behind you.

When God delivers your marriage, He steps in to see that sin is removed as He destroys what the enemy planted to destroy your marriage. Only, if you are fixated on the past transgressions and won’t let go to forgive, the marriage will be stalled from moving forward because you will be transfixed to the past. 

Don’t be stuck gazing back at everything that went wrong like Lot’s wife in Genesis 19:

“24-25 Then God rained brimstone and fire down on Sodom and Gomorrah—a river of lava from God out of the sky!—and destroyed these cities and the entire plain and everyone who lived in the cities and everything that grew from the ground.

26 But Lot’s wife looked back and turned into a pillar of salt.”

Be salt and light. Preserve and savor your spouse’s efforts to make the changes needed to honor your covenant together. Flavor your marriage with the grace and strength of forgiveness. Don’t become like a pillar of salt. If you won’t give your spouse the chance to move beyond their past mistakes, instead of bringing out inherent good of your marriage (as salt), you will appear to be a frozen monument and reminder of all the bad, painful things God has already set your marriage free from!

Be salt and light. May God bless you!

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Fight for Your Marriage 


Marriage means spiritual warfare. As a wife, I’ve learned we must be ready at all times to fight for our marriages. You must be ready, alert, humble, bold, submitted to God and your husband. The way you battle is to:

✨Wear the full armor of God according to Ephesians 6:10-18.

✨ Pray continually. Be watchful and persevere by pushing through the thick of the battle. God will see you through it!

✨Speak God’s Word over your marriage and husband to wield your sword and cut off the influence of the enemy.

✨Stand firm on God’s Word.

✨Be unmoved by what you see in the natural. Walk by faith. Trust in God and HE will fight your battles for you and bring you to a victorious outcome. 

In Christ Jesus, we are more than conquerors. Your marriage is worth fighting for, but make sure you are fighting in the Spirit in prayer. The wrong strategy is to fight against your husband because the devil– not your husband–is the true enemy. The winning strategy is to know that the battle belongs to God and He wants to see our marriages bring Him glory and prosper. Therefore, do not strive and try to win in by your own strength. Only God can see you through and restore a marriage deathblow that is the result of sin. Only God can retrieve a lost, prodigal from the enemy camp, so just trust Him to do what you cannot. Keep fighting and praying and believing for the victory! 
“Then he said to me, “This is what the LORD says to Zerubbabel: It is not by force nor by strength, but by my Spirit, says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies.” (Zechariah 4:6)

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