Excellent Wives

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Monday I will begin a study on “The Excellent Wife:Day by Day” devotional in my private Facebook group Marriage Mints Cup of Comfort~Wives Café. If you are looking to better yourself as a wife, according to God’s standards, do visit my group and request to be added! This is a season of order! Many want the blessings and restoration. Our God likes to bless where there is order, so even if your husband is out of order, come be a part of this blessed study and allow God to start ordering your household beginning with you! This study is truly going to bless us, especially those ladies who are facing difficulties in their marriages! I remember being in the valley in a desert season in my marriage when I felt very alone.  Drawing near to God and immersing myself in His Word as well as in studies of how to be the wife He calls me to be, made a tremendous difference! It made the valley ever so sweet and the desert became an oasis as I focused on allowing God to mold me and make changes in my heart. I remember being told that my dream to write books to help other wives would not happen because my marriage had not reached the mountaintop. I’m so glad that I disregarded that ill advice because not only did God give me a testimony to share in the valley, He gave me the basis for the books I did go on to write. He gave me peace that surpasses understanding and joy when if one looked at my circumstances,  by all natural means, I should have been depressed and defeated. I glowed with His peace and He used that to make my husband notice me again–not just in a new light but he caused my husband to really see me in His light! While I was in the valley, the Lord fanned the flames in me to have a desire to teach and help other wives to live “wisely and purely” so that His word is not disgraced. He gave me a heart to begin walking out my Titus 2 calling. My hope is that you’ll go into this study with me and know that God wants to use you too! He wants us to become excellent wives with our excellence not based on idolizing the picture of Proverbs 31 wife but based upon Christ’s excellence. He wants us to be diligent workers of our homes in making our homes a place that ushers in His presence and peace. He wants us to learn how to submit and how to love our husbands and children. It’s my hope that this study will bring glory to the Lord as He is magnified in our lives!
Titus 2:4-5~
” These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.”

2 Timothy 2:15 ~
” Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.”
Cassandra Salamone ♡
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When a Wife Feels Lonely

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When a wife feels lonely  or finds herself feeling clingy towards her husband, it reflects her need to seek the Lord and examine her heart. Failure to do so can lead her to create unreasonable expectations from her husband, who was never purposed by God to fulfill her every need. Key questions she needs to ask herself to gain perspective of who she places her hopes in are:
◆ “Am I putting God first in my life and seeking Him more than I seek to be satisfied by my spouse’s presence?”
◆ “After I spend quality time with my spouse, am I still longing for more from him that stems from a discontented feeling inside?”
◆ ” Do I feel unusually lonely all of the time? And if so, am I neglecting to develop interests and take care of my own personal needs aside from my spouse and the things we do together?”
When we feel lonely, our first instinct may be to look to our spouse or other people to replace the loneliness in our hearts. However, God designed our hearts in such a way that we would turn to Him. Other people can never fully satisfy us. Only the Lord has that ability to search out every hidden, lonely place in our hearts and fill them with His abiding love.
Joshua 1:5 ~ “No man shall be able to stand before you all the days of your life; as I was with Moses, so I will be with you. I will not leave you nor forsake you.”
No man can be there for us every day of our life. Our husbands cannot be there to fulfill our every need. We will experience moments and even seasons of being alone in our lives–whether emotionally or physically–but we are blessed to have God who never leaves or forsakes us.
Joshua 1:9 ~ ” Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” “
Scripture tells us plainly who we are to place our hope in to fill us with joy and peace–God not man!
Romans 15:13 ~  “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.
The Lord is to be our source of joy and peace not our husbands. What we receive from our spouse is to be a bonus or surplus, but not the only source of what fulfills us. C.S. Lewis describes it beautifully:
” Most people, if they had really learned to look into their own hearts, would know that they do want, and want acutely, something that cannot be had in this world. There are all sorts of things in this world that offer to give it to you, but they never quite keep their promise.”
Nothing can fulfill us completely other than Jesus.  Material possessions, the most outgoing friends, our husbands–none can satisfy our lonely places like the Lord. Amen♡
~Cassandra
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What Kind of Wife Legacy Are You Building?

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Life as a wife–the wife life–can be both a joyful and challenging role. It’s not easy to balance putting our husbands first, homemaking, careers, and rearing children– tending to all of these responsibilities–while remaining centered spiritually. If we don’t keep God first in our lives, all of our other priorities can all seem to be a shaky, juggling act that is bound to fail when we become weary. It’s so important to reserve times of pampering and refreshing for yourself in the presence of the Lord. If you cannot schedule quiet time for praying or for meditating on Scriptures first thing in the morning, plan to disperse that time all throughout your day, so your day is peppered with grace. Without the Lord, we just resemble those mechanical, mannequin-looking women who pull steaming pies from ovens with one hand and mop the floor with the other hand–all while wearing heels. Without the Lord, we are aiming blindly for a perfection and order that cannot exist because we must put Him first.
We can simply put Him first by acknowledging our need for His guidance in how we are to love our husbands and deal with them on a respectful level, no matter what is going on. We can put God first by prayerfully involving Him in our decision-making concerning how we discipline, teach, and train up our children. This can pertain to the television shows they are allowed to watch,as well as, the games and activities we allow them to participate in. We can put God first by asking Him how we can point others in our workplaces and communities to Christ in how we conduct ourselves and live out our lives all to His glory.
Without God, my life is just an endless list of things to do. Without God, I cannot love my husband and children with a contented heart that accepts my successes, as well as, my failures. Without God, my life would lack purpose, and I thank Him for being the one who balances and adds eternal meaning to my life each day!
Matthew 6:33 ” But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”
Have a Blessed day ♡
~Cassandra
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What Kind of Wife Legacy Are You Building?

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Life as a wife–the wife life–can be both a joyful and challenging role. It’s not easy to balance putting our husbands first, homemaking, careers, and rearing children– tending to all of these responsibilities–while remaining centered spiritually. If we don’t keep God first in our lives, all of our other priorities can all seem to be a shaky, juggling act that is bound to fail when we become weary. It’s so important to reserve times of pampering and refreshing for yourself in the presence of the Lord. If you cannot schedule quiet time for praying or for meditating on Scriptures first thing in the morning, plan to disperse that time all throughout your day, so your day is peppered with grace. Without the Lord, we just resemble those mechanical, mannequin-looking women who pull steaming pies from ovens with one hand and mop the floor with the other hand–all while wearing heels. Without the Lord, we are aiming blindly for a perfection and order that cannot exist because we must put Him first.
We can simply put Him first by acknowledging our need for His guidance in how we are to love our husbands and deal with them on a respectful level, no matter what is going on. We can put God first by prayerfully involving Him in our decision-making concerning how we discipline, teach, and train up our children. This can pertain to the television shows they are allowed to watch,as well as, the games and activities we allow them to participate in. We can put God first by asking Him how we can point others in our workplaces and communities to Christ in how we conduct ourselves and live out our lives all to His glory.
Without God, my life is just an endless list of things to do. Without God, I cannot love my husband and children with a contented heart that accepts my successes, as well as, my failures. Without God, my life would lack purpose, and I thank Him for being the one who balances and adds eternal meaning to my life each day!
Matthew 6:33 ” But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”
Have a Blessed day ♡
~Cassandra
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Add to Your Summer Reading!

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Visit Amazon and purchase your copy of Cassandra’s New devotional on faith and marriage at:
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Take this inspiring devotional with you when you go on vacation!
“From Faith to Fear” reminds its readers to lean on God’s promises with creative, daily devotions that include:
◆ Bible Scriptures
◆ Encouraging lessons that incorporate beach life into fun parables
◆ Daily prayers
◆And ★Bonus★ days that are devoted to husbands and wives regarding headship and being help meets, respectively!
Please, remember to stop by Amazon and leave a review after you’ve read it! Feedback is welcomed!!!

New eBook Release~ “From Fear to Faith: Devotional on Faith and Marriage”

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Cassandra’s new devotional ebook is now available on Amazon for download to your Kindle device/app! “From Fear to Faith” is only $2.99 and is sure to inspire an increase in your faith as you are pointed to God’s Word each day! Each day reminds you to focus on the Lord instead of your circumstances. This is not a lengthy, time-consuming read and you do not have to be married to enjoy it. Cassandra’s creative way of incorporating her love for the beach and her love for God’s Word will leave you motivated in your walk with God. This is one devotional you cannot miss out on including in your Summer reading!
Make your purchase now at http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00KMUNI8E
God bless you and thank you for supporting Cassandra’s Marriage Mints ministry!