There are so many articles that have already been written that suggest what wives should pray when they pray for their husbands. God touched my heart to write a post that addresses how we should pray–specifically, concerning the posture or attitude of our hearts when we pray on their behalf. Many wives pray because they want God to change their husband’s heart or change factors in their husband’s lives regarding his spiritual leadership, treatment of her, his career/finances, his habits or interests, and his friendships. All of these are key factors that affect his role in their marriage as head of their families and deserve prayerful attention. Yet, there is something that is so important and is often overlooked. That “something” is the wife’s heart. I believe God takes our hearts into consideration as we pray for our husbands. It’s quite possible that He will search the praying wife’s heart before he considers the heart of her husband. It’s important that when we pray for our husbands, we do not forget to pray for the postures of our hearts.
Postures of a Praying Wife’s Heart
▪Posture of Forgiveness: Mark 11:25 ” But when you are praying, first forgive anyone you are holding a grudge against, so that your Father in heaven will forgive your sins, too.”
We don’t want to go into prayer with unforgiveness in our hearts towards our husband or anyone else. If there is resentment present, we must ask God to help us forgive and uproot any bitterness. Praying with a heart filled with unforgiveness works contrary to God who is love. You must pray to have it removed so blessings are not hindered.
▪Posture of Humility: Philippians 2:3-4 “Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. 4 Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.”
When we pray, we should be praying with our husbands’ best interests foremost in our hearts. We should not pray vainly with the intent upon merely having our way, getting the upper hand, or from selfish motives. We need to not think highly of ourselves as if we are better than oyr husbands. We have to pray from a position of lowliness just as Jesus did.
▪Posture of Intercession: James 5:16 ” Therefore, make it your habit to confess your sins to one another and to pray for one another, so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.”
We are privy to our husbands’ weaknesses and areas of vulnerability as their closest companions–their help meets. The most powerful thing a wife can do that goes light years beyond the shadow of suggesting, complaining, or even nagging, is to intercede on her husband’s behalf in prayer! Pray for your husband’s healing, strengthening, and deliverance from any sin that staggers his walk with the Lord. Your prayers are powerful and effective!
▪Posture of Confidence: 1 John 5:14-15 ” Now this is the confidence that we have in Him, that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us. 15 And if we know that He hears us, whatever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we have asked of Him.”
When we go to the Lord in prayer, we need to believe that God hears our prayers that line up with His will and know that we have what we have requested. This verse is stirring us up to have confidence in our Lord; and even further, I take from it that even when we do not see in the natural what we have prayed for, we need to have faith that God has worked it out in the spiritual realm! We have what we asked of Him according to His will and His timing.
▪Posture of Obedience: “Isaiah 30:19-21 ” He will be very gracious to you at the sound of your cry; When He hears it, He will answer you.
20 And though the Lord gives you the bread of adversity and the water of affliction, Yet your teachers will not be moved into a corner anymore,
But your eyes shall see your teachers. 21 Your ears shall hear a word behind you, saying, “This is the way, walk in it,” Whenever you turn to the right hand Or whenever you turn to the left.””
We pray for help in how we can be the wife God calls us to be for our husbands. We pray for mentorship, direction and guidance, for help to know which paths to take,and which decisions we are to act upon. We face many situations with our husbands and need a word from the Lord as to how we are to handle them. Being a wife is not easy at times honestly! Our marriage certificates don’t come with instruction manuals. But God is the creator of marriage; therefore, we can assuredly look to His Word and boldly approach Him in prayer for help! He will position us so that we have access to resources that can help us navigate through stormy and unclear times in our marriage journeys. Those resources can include: verses from His Word, marriage books, other wives–Titus 2 wives–who are seasoned and willing to share their wisdom about being a godly wife, marriage counselors, etc.
As we wait on God, we need to be continually submitting ourselves to Him and being certain we are ready to listen and obey His instruction. Almost every time I have prayed regarding my husband, God reveals to me through His Word, His Holy Spirit speaking into my conscience, other people, or by confirmation through reading materials, etc. that there’s some assignments I need to be working on regarding myself in the meantime while He is at work in my marriage. Be ready to listen and obey. He will guide you. God wants to change us and our husbands through our prayers! I thank Him for the beauty of His plans♥
God bless your praying hearts,
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