Motherhood and Wifehood: On Being Stewards of God’s Love


I hope all of you mothers who read this post had a joyous Mother’s Day yesterday.  I surely did and in the midst of celebrating being a mother, God called me to look inward and deeper at how He uses motherhood to mold mothers so our love looks more like Jesus’ love. On Mother’s Day, mothers rejoice in how their children and husbands honor them to show their appreciation. while I was rejoicing, God quietly interrupted to prompt me to take heed to my oldest child who neither honored me with a token of her thanks or said “Happy Mother’s Day, mom.” She was forefront in my heart and my flesh wanted to rail that she’s “just an unthankful brat!”, God’s Holy Spirit reminded me that He loves me when I’m unlovable.  He calls us to love the unlovable ones–not just the ones who do good to us and are easy to love. This is the note I wrote this morning on what He showed me yesterday:
“Mother’s Day was beautiful, and even moreso because I had some time to reflect on how God uses motherhood to perfect Christ’s love in my heart. It’s so easy to love the people who love you back and make life easier, more pleasant for you. The same goes for motherhood. Let’s be real because that’s what the Lord requires of us–be honorable and tell the truth, right? It’s so easy to love and brag on our children when they are obedient, make the Honor Roll, do good deeds and sit amiably beside you at church, but what about the children who are not easy to love and teach? The ones who challenge your rules, do the minimal to progress at school, and don’t believe in God or what you’ve taught them? I am blessed to have such a variety of personalities to mother and love. I’m blessed to parent fairly obedient children for the most part but have a teenager, in particular,who really challenges me as a mother. No, it is not due to the fact that she’s a teenager–always has been a challenge. I have taught well and press on in that. Yesterday, after hearing my spiritual father’s sermon at church, I let go. I let go of feeling responsible for her misbehavior and choices to rebel. She wasn’t brought up in the Lord, but when you learn to live right you start doing right from that point on and so she has been being taught. I feel blessed to be the mother who pours into her because I know that God picked me to do it bc no other woman in this world as her mother would’ve been able to reach her heart or be strong enough to bridle her or understand the strength of her will. I’m one strong-willed person and she has met her match in me because I don’t give up and I have God on my side 🙂 She has met the unyielding will of her Father through mine. The love that does not give up and is most lavish in protecting us from ourselves. God’s “No” protects and hedges us in from continuing on the wrong path. The same goes for our children. It’s a blessing to love this child of mine who has been so difficult to love. Many mothers would consider it a curse but God does not curse His children. He blesses us abundantly so that His will is accomplished in our lives. That includes blessing us with that which is uncomfortable or is a struggle, especially if it keeps us turning to Him. It’s easier to love her now not because she’s mine but because she’s His. I will love her with tough love until she is worn down from it and accepts my will. In the meantime,  I thank my Father because even though my daughter wants nothing to do with church etc., she just doesn’t realize she is more involved in God’s plan–a main factor as a matter of fact lol! He is using her to perfect the love of Christ in my heart♥  Jesus didn’t say to just love those who love us. He actually said in Matthew 5:43-48:  ” “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, 45 that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. 46 For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? 47 And if you greet your brethren only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the tax collectors do so? 48 Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect.” So if you are blessed with difficult children, consider it an extra special blessing because while you are training them up, God is training you up in His love. Amen ~”
We experience this call to love the unlovable–those who are hardest to love–both in motherhood and as wives. As wives, we are called to love our husbands despite unlovable characteristics that make it difficult for us to even like them at times! 🙂 I pray that every role we are called to play that we will courageously do our parts to walk in truth and love as we seek God’s help to do His will. Have a Blessed day! ♥~Cassandra Salamone
Micah 6:7-8 “7 Does the LORD take delight in thousands of rams, In ten thousand rivers of oil? Shall I present my firstborn for my rebellious acts, The fruit of my body for the sin of my soul? 8He has told you, O man, what is good; And what does the LORD require of you But to do justice, to love kindness, And to walk humbly with your God?”
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