“Love”This painting illustrates the Bride before the Bridegroom Jesus. The depictions of the dove representing the Holy Spirit and the pomegranate sliced open, spilling seeds, as well as, the water jug tipped over washing her foot, are rich with revelation. This speaks so much to my heart about marriage:

What brings us to our knees brings us to the secret place where we stop running and sit with Jesus. When the troubles can cause a husband and wife to work together instead of sin running them apart, Jesus is their present help. Troubles can be made to serve us in our marriages as God’s promise in Romans 8:28 causes them to work for our good! Husbands in order to lead must learn how to serve. Leaders have authority in a position that is seated, which means that a husband must have humility and be willing to wash his wife’s feet. He must be willing to learn his wife–her flaws and her weaknesses–not so that he can exploit them or manipulate her by them but so he can wash her with God’s Word. By the power of the Holy Spirit, a husband is seated in a Holy place as he says Lord use me in her sanctification. Let our brokenness bear fruit Lord, as a pomegranate is pregnant with seeds and no flesh; Let our brokenness bear seeds of blessings that will yield good fruit in our marriage. Let my wife feel that my embrace is her sanctuary and we can sit together before the Lord with the best of our brokenness, the best of our passion and love for each other spilled out before You. Make our marriage sweet with the fragrance of Your presence as we sit down with the One seated at the Right-Hand of the Father. Abide with us, near us, and in us Oh Lord. In Your precious name adorned with Eternal Love. Amen 🙏🏽 

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Stand and Be Strong!

There comes a time when you have to stop begging and crying over the storms in your marriage when your spouse is caught in sin. You have to stop mourning and grab hold of God’s Word. Grasp it tightly, and do not let go!!! Call to God’s remembrance the promises in His Word. Ask for His hand to ACT to MOVE in your situation! 


“I have prayed Oh Lord! I have fasted! I have done everything that I can do. Now, it’s Your time! I am excited to stand with confidence in expectation of WHAT ARE GOING TO DO LORD. Thank You in advance for all that You have been doing in my marriage and for what You’re about to do! The wickedness in my marriage cannot continue Lord! Get the glory in this marriage so that sin cannot reign any longer! In Jesus’ name Amen! 

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Moving Forward After Restoration 

When a marriage is restored, the heavens rejoice! The reconciled husband and wife certainly rejoice! Their children, friends, and family who support them in their marriage journey rejoice, and life can quickly move forward for the couple as God helps them to build a new future with each other day by day. 

Moving forward after marriage restoration with your spouse is like assembling a new piece of furniture. You will need God’s instructions and the right tools. One of the most important tools is the ability to forgive– to look forward instead of gazing at the destruction behind you.

When God delivers your marriage, He steps in to see that sin is removed as He destroys what the enemy planted to destroy your marriage. Only, if you are fixated on the past transgressions and won’t let go to forgive, the marriage will be stalled from moving forward because you will be transfixed to the past. 

Don’t be stuck gazing back at everything that went wrong like Lot’s wife in Genesis 19:

“24-25 Then God rained brimstone and fire down on Sodom and Gomorrah—a river of lava from God out of the sky!—and destroyed these cities and the entire plain and everyone who lived in the cities and everything that grew from the ground.

26 But Lot’s wife looked back and turned into a pillar of salt.”

Be salt and light. Preserve and savor your spouse’s efforts to make the changes needed to honor your covenant together. Flavor your marriage with the grace and strength of forgiveness. Don’t become like a pillar of salt. If you won’t give your spouse the chance to move beyond their past mistakes, instead of bringing out inherent good of your marriage (as salt), you will appear to be a frozen monument and reminder of all the bad, painful things God has already set your marriage free from!

Be salt and light. May God bless you!

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Fight for Your Marriage 

Marriage means spiritual warfare. As a wife, I’ve learned we must be ready at all times to fight for our marriages. You must be ready, alert, humble, bold, submitted to God and your husband. The way you battle is to:

✨Wear the full armor of God according to Ephesians 6:10-18.

✨ Pray continually. Be watchful and persevere by pushing through the thick of the battle. God will see you through it!

✨Speak God’s Word over your marriage and husband to wield your sword and cut off the influence of the enemy.

✨Stand firm on God’s Word.

✨Be unmoved by what you see in the natural. Walk by faith. Trust in God and HE will fight your battles for you and bring you to a victorious outcome. 

In Christ Jesus, we are more than conquerors. Your marriage is worth fighting for, but make sure you are fighting in the Spirit in prayer. The wrong strategy is to fight against your husband because the devil– not your husband–is the true enemy. The winning strategy is to know that the battle belongs to God and He wants to see our marriages bring Him glory and prosper. Therefore, do not strive and try to win in by your own strength. Only God can see you through and restore a marriage deathblow that is the result of sin. Only God can retrieve a lost, prodigal from the enemy camp, so just trust Him to do what you cannot. Keep fighting and praying and believing for the victory! 
“Then he said to me, “This is what the LORD says to Zerubbabel: It is not by force nor by strength, but by my Spirit, says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies.” (Zechariah 4:6)

Cassandra Salamone . All rights reserved. ©2017 April. 

Seeing Change Through in Your Marriage

I learned that the best way to change my marriage was to:✨Change my mind. Renewing my mind in Christ by reading God’s Word and learning how to apply it/walk it out changed the way I esteemed myself and him. I learned to see my husband from the perspective/in light of who God says he should be; Learning to do this shaped my thoughts of my husband and changed my beliefs about him as I saw him and spoke about him through eyes of faith based on the Bible and not his behavior. Amen.

✨Change my speech. When I stopped telling my husband repeatedly all of the things I thought he was doing wrong and took them instead to God in prayer, God humbled me and redirected my attention to the things I needed to work on in my own heart. My Words towards my husband and also to others concerning him became more intentional–kind, compassionate, and faith-filled. Instead of recounting his transgressions, I prayed for him and pointed out the many things that he was doing right along with things I believed by faith he would begin to do to the glory of God. The enemy is the accuser of the brethren and I refused to allow him to utilize my voice to tear my husband down. I used my words to build him up and noticed he no longer treated me as if I was his enemy.

✨Changed my actions. I prayed that God would fill me anew with His Holy Spirit and make me sensitive and soft-hearted without being a doormat. God is faithful. He guided me and made me “self-aware” or conscious of how to revise several key aspects of our daily life so that my husband would notice I was putting him first and honoring him. I no longer allowed his behavior to dictate my responses to him–changing my love from being a shell of love contingent upon whether he met my expectations and needs to being more like the Father’s love–unwavering and unconditional.

I learned to separate my emotions and opinions from my decision to commit to love my husband. I have been able to do this only with God’s help and this helped to soften my husband’s heart and elicit an even more loving response from him! Praise God!!!

The greatest change I’ve seen are the changes that God does in me. I learned I could never change my husband only myself and what I have to offer in our marriage; Changing my husband is God’s job to do and only what He identifies as areas that need to change. 

Change begins with the one who has a need or prayer to see change. God is faithful to walk with you and guide you as he molds both you and your spouse to better glorify Him in your marriage. May God bless you 🙏🏽

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The Esther Study finale 📖 

Upon Haman’s exit from Queen Esther’s banquet, his smugness was short-lived when he encountered Mordecai “in the king’s gate and that he did not stand or tremble before him..” (Esther 5:9). Haman was so “filled with indignation”, but he remained composed so that he could get together with his wife Zeresh and their friends in order to brag about “the multitude of his children, everything in which the king had promoted him, and how he had advanced him above the officials and servants..” (5:11). 

Haman boasted that Queen Esther had prepared a second special banquet that only he was invited to attend with King Ahasuerus. He complained to his wife and friends that his prestige and importance were marred and of little effect amidst the continual defiance of Mordecai the Jew who sat at the king’s gate (5:13). Zeresh and friends devised a scheme to help Haman get rid of Mordecai:“Let a gallows be made and in the morning suggest to the king that Mordecai be hanged on it; then go merrily with the king to the banquet” (5:14).

Their evil plot “pleased Haman” and he commissioned the gallows to be made (5:14). Haman was so vindictive and impatient to be rid of Mordecai’s insulting presence, he could not wait for the decree to carry out his murder. He had to personally take his murderous motives for Mordecai into his own hands with their hastily concocted scheme.

✨✨✨I believe that during the same night, God caused King Ahasuerus to be restless and brought remembrance of the good that Mordecai had done. He commanded the book of the records of the chronicles be brought out and read to him. “And it was found written that Mordecai had told of…the doorkeepers who had sought to lay hands on King Ahasuerus” (6:2-3). The king asked what honor had been given to Mordecai to repay him for revealing a plot to end his life; and his servants informed him “Nothing has been done for him” (6:3).✨✨✨
The king’s remembrance of Mordecai carried into the next morning because when his servants answered the king’s question, Haman had arrived in the outer court. He was there bright and early to make his suggestion that Mordecai be hung on the gallows he had built for him. 
When the king allowed Haman to enter, he asked: 

“What shall be done for the man whom the king delights in?” 

✨✨✨Mordecai pondered in his heart whether there was anyone who the king might “delight to honor more” (6:6). Mordecai asked the king for a “royal robe which the king has worn”, “a horse on which the king has ridden, which has a royal crest placed on its head”; AND he wanted those delivered to him by the hand of “one of the king’s most noble princes” so that the prince could put the robe on him and also “parade him on horseback through the city square, and proclaim before him: ‘Thus shall it be done to the mam whom the king delights to honor!” (6:7-9). 

This is the part of Esther’s account where we see a twist–a turnaround–in the enemy Haman’s wicked plans. ✨✨✨

The king promptly agreed with Haman’s suggestion. He ordered him to take the royal robe and horse with the royal crest so that he could do just as he suggested for “Mordecai the Jew who sits within the king’s gate! Leave nothing undone of all that you have spoken.” (6:10). 

Haman did all that he had suggested and had to perform this great honor for the very man he wanted hung on the gallows he had built the day before! Haman had to put the royal robe on Mordecai and lead Mordecai in a procession all-the-while proclaiming that this was the treatment bestowed on the man the king “delights to honor!” (6:11) The king delighted to honor Mordecai not Haman!!! 

Haman must have been shocked to his core. Oh, how his plans had begun to backfire and unravel right in his hands and in front of his eyes! 
Following this surprising turn of events, Mordecai returned to the king’s gate, while Haman scurried home in his humiliation and despair “mourning and with his head covered” (6:12). He shared his upsetting news with his wife and friends who were wisemen or oracles. They delivered an ominous revelation to Haman saying, “If Mordecai, before you have begun to fall, is of Jewish descemt, you will not prevail against him but will surely fall before him (6:12-13).

 They were still discussing this with Haman when the king’s eunuchs arrived and swifted Haman away to Esther’s second banquet.
On the second day of the banquet of wine, King Ahasuerus asked Esther again what would she request of him. Queen Esther answered and said:
“If I have found favor in your sight, O king, and if it pleases the king, let my life be given me at my petition, and my people at my request. For we have been sold, my people and I, to be destroyed, to be killed, and to be annihilated. Had we been sold as male and female slaves, I would have held my tongue, although the enemy could never compensate for the king’s loss” (7:3-4).

✨✨✨Imagine how the king must have felt sitting with his beautiful wife who had prepared a sumptuous feast for him and his closest cohort. The ambiance had shifted from one of ease and congeniality to somber and tension. The queen had gone from serving him to practically begging for her life and her people’s lives to be spared. ✨✨✨

The king was in an uproar and demanded to know the identity and whereabouts of the man who had DARED to think of doing such a thing in his heart! He loved Esther and this was not something he would stand for or allow to happen.

” And Esther said, ” The adversary and enemy is this wicked Haman!” So Haman was terrified…the king arose in his wrath and went into the palace garden…Haman stood before Queen Esther, pleading for his life…When the king returned…Haman had fallen across the couch where Esther was.” (7:7-8)

The king returned and this sight greeted his eyes. He accused Haman of trying to assault the queen even while he was still in his own house! Even as this scene was being assessed by the king, they had Haman’s head covered. The king’s eunuch Harbonah pointed out:

 “Look! The gallows, fifty cubits high, which Haman made for Mordecai, who spoke good on the king’s behalf, is standing at the house of Haman” (7:9).

The king orders that Haman be promptly hung on the very same gallows he had built for Mordecai. Wow!!!! 

On that same day that Haman was hung on his gallows, King Ahasuerus awarded Queen Esther with Haman’s estate. Esther disclosed to the king that Mordecai was her relative and the king gifted him with his signet ring he’d taken back from Haman. Esther also turned around and gifted Haman’s estate to Mordecai. 

Esther “implored with tears to counteract the evil of Haman the Agagite, ” and his scheme delineating the destruction of the Jews (8:3). King Ahasuerus extended his golden scepter yet again, and she arose to petition another decree be written to “revoke the letters devised by Haman” (8:5). She expressed her dual stake concern for the threat as being a Jew for she did not want to see harm come to her kinsmen. 

The king told Esther and Mordecai to write the decree on behalf of the Jews and to seal it with his signet ring so that “no one can revoke” (8:8). 

The king’s scribes were assembled to write the decree “according to all that Mordecai commanded” for the Jews, and every person in power and in their own languages–127 provinces altogether. In addition, letters were sealed and sent “by couriers on horseback riding on royal horses bred from swift steeds”. The letters gave the Jews permission to “gather together and protect their lives” by any meams necessary, from anyone who attacked them (8:9,10,11). The couriers were “hastened” by the king and the decree was issued in Shushan the citadel” (8:14).
✨✨✨I envision Mordecai walking out onto a balcony that overlooks the palace. He wore his royal robe of blue and white with a golden crown, as well as, a garment of fine linen and purple to greet the Jewish people’s cheers and celebration at the palace and in the streets below. ✨✨✨

And in every province and city, wherever the king’s command and decree came, the Jews had joy and gladness, a feast and a holiday” (8:17).

“On the day that the enemies of the Jews had hoped to overpower them, the opposite occurred in that the Jews themselves overpowered those who hated them” (9:1). The Jews went after everyone who sought their death and destroyed them all. They were helped by the king’s officials, satraps, governor, and all who were his allies. Mordecai became famous throughout the kingdom.

Furthermore, in Shushan, the Jews had killed 500 men, including Haman’s ten sons. When the casualties were reported to King Ahasuerus, he only wanted to know what further casualties had been accomplished in the other provinces and whether Queen Esther had any further requests to make. Esther requested an additional day to complete the onslaught against the Jews’ enemies and that “Haman’s ten sons be hanged on the gallows” in spite of the fact that they were already dead (9:14)! Queen Esther wasn’t playing!!!

The king issued the decree to hang them and permitted an additional day of war against the Jews’ enemies, resulting in 75,000 more enemy casualties! 
To celebrate their victory over their enemies, Mordecai established the feast of Purim–to be celebrated “yearly the 14th amd 15th days of the month Adar” (9:21). 

It was named Purim because Haman had cast Pur (the lot) to annihilate the Jews. Purim was established to be observed from generation to generation as a remembrance of how the Jews were saved from death by Queen Esther’s courageous plea to King Ahasuerus. Queen Esther wrote with her own authority to back up Mordecai’s letters about Purim.
So the decree of Esther confirmed these matters of Purim, and it was written in the book” (9:32). 

Fun Facts About Purim:

🔹The megillah (book of Esther) is read.

🔹Money gifts are given to the poor.

🔹Gifts of food are sent to friends.
🔹A festive Purim feast is held, and children dress up in costumes.
The image below is of an ornately embellished cover for Esther’s Scroll. 

Esther was not only a gracious wife and the queen of Persia but also a hero–a woman of valor! Through her courage, we witness the turnarounds and reversals that happened by the grace of God:

🔹Weeping was reversed to Joy!

🔹Fasting was reversed to Feasting and Celebration!

🔹Day of Destruction for Jews was reversed to Day of Redemption and a Holiday, which is Purim!

Dear women of God

Thank you for sticking with this study. This final lesson covered an extensive amount of material and I did not want to breeze through it because it is all important. God reveals so much in each verse amd not necessarily in an instant when we read it but definitely when we need the understanding. I named this study “The Esther Study~ Becoming Women of Godly Purpose, but it wasn’t until I was practically finished writing out this final lesson that God gave me confirmation and also a revelation. He confirmed that He called me to prepare this study for ther women, and He led me to read an article of the purpose of a Bible study. It made me leap inside for joy and also was a steadying hand from the Lord. As I’ve written out each lesson, I’ve been excited to find fresh new revelations that we can apply to our lives; but at the same time, I’ve been careful to keep it true to the context of how the account is intended in the Bible. The article I read confirmed that God was delighted in my excitement to pore through the verses looking for meaning but His hand steadied me with this: 

When we read and study God’s Word, it is often comforting for us to see ourselves and our lives when we read the verses and look back into the lives of those recorded in His Word. We tend to want to personalize and make it about us; but we have to keep in mind that it is written so that we can see God and know who He is through what we read. We can certainly apply His Word to our situations, but we must be especially careful to recognize and maintain the integrity of the context and purpose for which it was written. So by no means am I trying to take the book of Esther and turn it into a guide for being a Proverbs 31 wife 😊 We can learn a lot from Esther and her account but if we are desiring to become women of godly purpose, we have to behold the Word of God in all its sacredness so that we behold His will, His character, and His love for us. The article from Reviving Ministries says, “We become what we behold.” 

2 Corinthians 3:18 “But we all, with unveiled faces, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as by the Spirit of the Lord.”


These past few weeks, we have beheld Esther’s life and also beheld how God shut down the enemy and redeemed her and the Jews. Esther’s Jewish name Hadassah indicates righteousness and her and her people’s deliverance from the evil work of Haman brings to mind Isaiah 54:14-17. We can trust God with our marriages and families–all that concerns us. God is faithful and always right on time to deliver us from our troubles. If we experience pressing difficulties, He makes a way out so we are not destroyed. Just as Esther and Mordecai had their decrees written and sealed with the king’s signet ring, God’s Word is written and cannot be revoked. We are sealed with His Holy Spirit and the Blood of Jesus. Esther teaches us to have courage in the face of adversity. Her story is beautiful and multi-faceted like a gemstone. If there is anything I have drawn from her courage– “If I perish, I perish”– is that Esther was not afraid to risk her life on account of doing what was right. 

Matthew 16:25, AMPC~

“For whoever is bent on saving his [temporal] life [his comfort and security here] shall lose it [eternal life]; and whoever loses his life [his comfort and security here] for My sake shall find it [life everlasting].”
This leads me to our final Reflection Questions:

🔹Did this study on Esther prompt you to consider your relationship with Jesus?

🔹 Does this study encourage you to boldly approach God’s throne with prayer and supplication?

🔹Do you feel empowered with authority in Christ to stand for your marriage, your family, and all God has promised you?

If you answered “No” to any of those questions, please feel free to email me at cassandrasmarriagemints@gmail.com. I’ll be more than happy to help you any way I can.

Lord God, thank You for Your Word and thank You for sending the women my way to share in this study. I pray You will give us wisdom and understanding to walk out our purpose as wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, friends. Thank You for never leaving us and for helping us to become women of purpose who wait on You and trust You in all things no matter what. We thank you and I ask that You turn for our good anything that the enemy plots against us. Whatever adversary we face in our lives, expose it and reverse it to work in our favor. Thank You Jesus for saving us!!!!!! Lord, be our strength and give us courage to carry out Your will. The weapons that form against us are lying tongues such as Haman’s in Esther. Lord, let your will be done and vindicate us when we are under attack or in the enemy’s crosshairs, just as it is written in

Isaiah 54:14-17, NKJV~

In righteousness you shall be established; You shall be far from oppression, for you shall not fear;And from terror, for it shall not come near you. 15 Indeed they shall surely assemble, but not because of Me.Whoever assembles against you shall fall for your sake. 16 “Behold, I have created the blacksmith Who blows the coals in the fire, Who brings forth an instrument for his work; And I have created the spoiler to destroy. 17 No weapon formed against you shall prosper, And every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, And their righteousness is from Me,” Says the Lord.”

In Jesus’ name we pray to have humble, servant hearts who give You all the glory, honor, and praise. Thank You for giving us a glimpse into Who You are–our Savior– as we have glimpsed into the life of Esther. Amen!

May God bless you all, and I pray this study reminds you that God is with you and His purpose for your life is bigger than any enemy plot. The plan to kill, steal, and destroy your marriage is overturned in Jesus’ name! Stand up for your marriage. Just as the enemy’s plot against Mordecai was truly about wiping out all Jews, the enemy’s plot against your marriage is about destroying your purpose–the destiny God has placed for your marriage to bring Him glory. Continue to trust God and have faith that God will reverse the enemy’s decrees against you! Perhaps you were born for such a time as this–to stand and fight for your marriage. God has a kingdom mandate upon your covenant marriage! Trust Him to turn your mourning to rejoicing and the plots against you into a platform that brings you to victory! 

Romans 8:28 💝

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Marriage Prayer 

Dear Lord,

✨Help me to confront with the intention to restore and not to reprimand.

✨Help me to weigh my spouse’s words and actions with compassion and still the need to respond with immediate emotion-fueled action.

✨Help us to utilize prayer to polish each other when we might be tempted to use words to punish each other.

✨Help us to love and forgive one another and be imitators of Jesus.

In His name we pray and ask for Your favor and protection over our marriages and families. Amen 🙏🏽

Cassandra’s Marriage Mints 💝

The Esther Study: Part 3

We learn that–thanks to Mordecai– King Ahasuerus discovers the treachery brewing between his trusted eunuchs, and he changed things up quite a bit. He decided to promote Haman the Agagite and set him above all the princes and servants who had held the privilege of being close to him (Esther 3:1-2).

The king commanded that they all were to bow down and pay homage to his newly promoted Haman. Certainly, this change must have raised many eyebrows beyond the king’s sight. “But Mordecai would not bow or pay homage.” (3:2). The king’s servants would question Mordecai on a daily basis to try and figure out why Mordecai would not obey the king’s command to bow to Haman.”..Mordecai had told them that he was a Jew. When Haman saw that Mordecai did not bow or pay him homage, Haman was filled with wrath.” (3:4-5)

Mordecai not only refused to show respect to Haman but went a step further to announce that He was a Jew. Note that in Esther 2:20 “..Esther had not revealed her family and her people, just as Mordecai had charged her, for Esther obeyed the command of Mordecai as when she was brought up by him.”

Haman was infuriated that Mordecai would not honor him and disgrace him publicly without shame. He was so filled with hatred for Mordecai and the knowledge that he was a Jew compelled him to seek the destruction of “all the Jews who were throughout the whole kingdom of Ahasuerus–the people of Mordecai” (3:6). Haman decided to take his sinister plan to the king; however, his presentation made it seem as if the “certain people” posed a threat to his kingdom. Haman did not specify to King Ahasuerus that those people were the Jews; he pointed out that they were abiding in the kingdom but were not obeying the laws. Haman’s proposal seemed to cater to the king’s best interests for his kingdom:

“If it pleases the king, let a decree be written that they be destroyed,” (3:9)

Haman was so intent on carrying out his scheme, he was willing to pay King Ahasuerus 10,000 talents of silver–hand delivered by the ones who would carry out the extinguishment of the Jews! How incredibly evil and vindictive Haman was for seeking to rid the kingdom of all of the Jews because Mordecai was a Jew who had humiliated him. 

The king took him at his word, for he simply gave Haman his signet ring and said, “The money and the people are given to you, to do with them as seems good to you” (3:11). The king did no research to confirm whether Haman was telling him the truth for the sake of his kingdom or seeking to fulfill his own selfish aims. Perhaps, he hastily accepted Haman’s word because was unwilling to risk another threat coming from his own people in his kingdom following the plot of his trusted eunuchs.

 “In the name of King Ahasuerus it was written, and sealed with the king’s signet ring.” (3:12) and the copies of the decree were issued forth, “the letters were sent by countries into all the king’s provinces, to destroy, to kill, and to annihilate all the Jews, both young and old, little children and women, in one day.”

We are told that the “city of Shushan was perplexed.” Let’s take a moment to process all of this. The people of Shushan are rightfully confused and bewildered because there has been a transition that has taken place unawares to them that has taken them from being welcomed to feast and celebrate King Ahasuerus’s splendor to hearing his officials issue a decree that says all of the Jews are being killed! 

Can you imagine the shock and the horror! 

The same Jews who had relinquished their young, beautiful, virgin daughters to the king’s officials when he was searching for Vashti’s replacement as queen, were back to ring death knells over them. Consider how Haman’s callous decree echoes the description of the devil’s plot against God’s people.

“The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy.” (John 10:10)

We know that “God is not the author of confusion” (1Corinthians 14:33).

Where there is confusion, there also is the work of the enemy–“Haman the son of Hammedatha the Agagite, being the enemy of the Jews” (Esther 3:10). 

Snapshot: Applying What We’ve Learned

In our marriages, we cannot look at the confusion in our “inner courtyards”–strife with our spouses, in-laws, and other marital turmoil–and simply hand over our signet rings (our authority in Christ) to the enemy. 

The signet ring was recognized as the personal signature or endorsement of its owner. It was a seal of authority, honor, and favor. Just as God chose Zerubbabel and made him “like a signet ring”, we as wives, as daughters of God, are chosen and walk as signets with authority in Christ Jesus!  

“In Him you also trusted, after you heard the word of the truth, the gospel of your salvation; in whom also, having believed, you were sealed with the Holy Spirit of promise, who is the guarantee of our inheritance until the redemption of the purchased possession, to the praise of His glory.” (Ephesians 1:13-14)

I’m sure that Esther must have felt torn. She must have felt that her hands were tied. How many times have you felt like you were helpless in the face of adversity in your circumstances?

Promise of God:

“We know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28)

When we go back to verse 15, the king and Haman “sat down to drink” and toast to the decree; however, Ahasuerus did not know that the Jews were the “certain peoples” that Haman was seeking to wipeout.

When Mordecai finds out about Haman’s decree, he ripped his clothes and “put on sackcloth and ashes” (4:1). In the middle of the city, he wailed bitterly and stood at the king’s gate. This lamenting and mourning spread everywhere the “king’s command and decree arrived” (4:3). Esther’s maids and eunuchs witnessed Mordecai’s public disarray and Queen Esther was “deeply distressed” (4:4). She sent clothes down to Mordecai, but he refused them. She sent Hathach “one of the king’s eunuchs whom he had appointed to attend her” (4:5) to investigate, and Mordecai told him of Haman’s decree to destroy the Jews. Mordecai also “gave him a copy of the written decree for their destruction….that he might show it to Esther and…he might command her to go in to the king to make supplication to him and plead before him for her people.”(4:8)

When we read Esther 4:10-14, we learn Queen Esther faced the dilemma of risking being put to death by going to king without being summoned by him. She had not seen the king personally in thirty days, so she had no idea how her presence would be received by him. On the other hand, if she remained silent and sought to spare her own life because she was not called by the king, she and her father’s house would eventually face death, as warned by Mordecai. Her royal position in the king’s palace was not her refuge. She may not have been called by King Ahasuerus, but who knows whether she was made queen “for such a time as this” (4:14)? Esther had to remember her name Hadassah. She had to weigh God’s calling for her life.

Sometimes we as wives and women of God, face many difficult decisions in our lives. At times, the enemy does all that he can to cause havoc and destruction in our marriages right underneath our husbands’ noses. Sometimes our husbands are oblivious to the enemy’s work, but as their helpers, God has called us to bring it to their attention with a bold yet humble spirit. This attitude requires prayer and the ability to put the interests of the bigger plan–God’s–above our own.

Esther considered that she faced death and told them to tell Mordecai that she was going to the king, despite it being against the law.

“If I perish, I perish!” (4:16)

Esther told Mordecai to gather all the Jews in Shushan and hold a fast for her for three days. She and her maids would fast for three days also before she went in to the king.

Now on the third day of the fast, “Esther put on her royal robes and stood in the inner court of the king’s palace, across from the king’s house, facing the entrance of the house. So it was, when the king saw Queen Esther standing in the court, that she found favor in his sight, and the king held out to Esther the golden sceptor that was in his hand. Then Esther went near and touched the top of the sceptor.” (5:1-2)

Esther did not demand that her husband receive her into his presence. She did not stir up a dramatic scene. She sought God’s presence first with her fast before she sought her husband’s.

Do you seek God before you go to your husband concerning issues in your marriage?

Esther put on her royal robes to manifest in the natural what she was attaching her hope to in the spiritual realm. She was the embodiment of 1 Peter 3:1-2 in that she hoped to remind her husband of his royal duty and responsibility to her as her husband without her having to say a word. Without a word, with her chaste conduct, she wanted to remind her king that she was his queen and worthy of being called. 

Esther did not attempt to barge her way into King Ahasuerus’ presence by entering his house. She simply positioned herself where she was in his sight, and once he laid eyes on his gracious, beautiful wife, he did not hesitate to hold out his golden sceptor to her. When she touched the top of the sceptor, she was affirming her husband’s authority and demonstrating reverence for him.

Like Esther, we can put on our royal robes–the disposition within our hearts–and allow our “gentle and quiet spirit” speak on our behalf. We can have faith that our husbands will see those gracious, respectable qualities and honor us. Call us into their vulnerable places so we can come alongside them and help them.  

King Ahasuerus asked Queen Esther what her request was and offered her up to half his kingdom. Esther requested only that the king and Haman attend the banquet she had prepared for him. The king sent for Haman immediately and both he and Haman went to her banquet. 

At the banquet, the king asked Esther again what she would like and assured her “up to half the kingdom? It shall be done!” (5:6) Esther answered that “if I have found favor in the sight of the king, and if it pleases the king to grant my petition and fulfill my request, then the king and Haman come to the banquet which I will prepare for them and tomorrow I will do as the king has said.” (5:8)

Esther was patient and wise. She put her husband’s peace of mind as her priority. She made sure she remained in his good graces and added no pressure to his life. She caused him no stress and made it a point to show him that she understood her role as his queen and that she knew how to fulfill his need. Queen Esther did not lose the war against Haman by trying to win the battle at once at her first meeting with the king. She was careful to be diplomatic and not demanding or needy for material things. 

Esther trusted God’s timing and knew that He’d opened the door to this meeting with King Ahasuerus. Death was not her fate. She knew that she had another day chance–a more opportune time to speak to the king about Haman’s plan. We are going to continue in the next lesson, which will pick us up to speed at Esther’s second banquet with the king and Haman.

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January 2-Daily Marriage Affirmation 

January 2, 2017~ God has allowed us to be tested so that we will KNOW what WARFARE looks like and NOT BE INTIMIDATED OR MOVED by it OR THE ENEMY. God has allowed us to stand in the midst of ALL-OUT warfare –chaos and skirmishes born of the enemy, sin, bad judgment, life; and He has allowed it to TEST US so that we can KNOW OUR GOD and know that He is with us. He is in control! 2016, I, along with many of you, experienced such testing to a degree and intensity as NEVER BEFORE EXPERIENCED! This was all a part of GOD’S plan SO THAT WE WILL KNOW HIM, HIS heart, character, great LOVE, MIGHTY COVERING OF PROTECTION, GRACE, AND MERCY IN NEW WAYS we never knew before!!!! GLORY TO GOD!!!!!!!!!!! Out of the trenches of WARFARE has come WISDOM and skill in how to put on the FULL ARMOR OF GOD!!!!! HALLELUJAH THANK YOU JEHOVAH FOR YOUR WORD!!!!! Thank You JESUS for being the ROCK UPON WHICH WE STAND. AMEN 🙏🏽

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Daily Marriage Affirmation!

Happy New Year 🎆 my friends!!! Glory to God we made it to another year! 2017! That means God is not finished with us yet! Praise God! Welcome to all the new members and to all those who have carried over from 2016, I love and appreciate you all. Let’s start this year off right with a daily Marriage Affirmation. This is a really neat way to help you to speak God’s Word over yourself and tuck Scripture into your hearts each day. I cannot emphasize enough how important daily reading of God’s Word is! As we speak it over ourselves and our marriages everyday, watch how everything begins to line up, issues that need to be prayed for and sin that needs to be repented of are exposed! We need to build up ourselves, our spouses, and speak life! I’m declaring that our marriages are being perfected in Christ and that God is getting the glory in them this year! We will experience miracles and restorations that are unexpected and see God show up and show out in our lives, our homes, health, finances, relationships with our spouses and children, in ways that have never been seen before! We will experience God in new ways and be the breakthrough that we need by being obedient to God’s Word and allowing our spouses, children, and everyone we meet encounter CHRIST through us! In Jesus’ name, AMEN! May God bless you 💝–Cassandra