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A situation many married couples face is estrangement in their marital beds. I want to address it from a biblical standpoint with this scenario:
Scenario~> Wife notices her husband is only nice to her when he wants to have sex. He’s been disrespectful and stays out with his buddies when he’s not working. She feels neglected and does not believe she should have sex with him.
Biblical Approach to Scenario:
1Corinthians 7:5 ” Do not refuse and depriveand defraud each other [of your due marital rights], except perhaps by mutual consent for a time, so that you may devote yourselves unhindered to prayer. But afterwards resume marital relations, lest Satan tempt you [to sin] through your lack of restraint of sexual desire.”
It’s hard for us as women to separate our emotions from sex. It’s an emotional act for us and when we are not feeling up to it/ in the mood or we feel upset bc our husbands have made us angry or not treating us right, sex is the furthest thing from our minds. But God is on to something! He has the answer for every situation and the aforementioned verse gives us His unfailing wisdom. God knows that if a husband and wife don’t have sex with each other as a habit or out of an intentional withholding pattern, the devil will cause temptation to come along to tempt one or both spouses. That temptation could show up in the form of adultery or cause them to sexually divorce one another by becoming sexually independent and reliant upon themselves via masturbation, pornography, reading erotic literature. God created us and knows we are wired differently. Men don’t necessarily connect their emotions to sex. They need to have sex to release stress. However, even if a man and his wife aren’t connecting on an emotional level, sex can become the bridge that keeps them spiritually connected. Sex is manifesting in the natural realm their one flesh unity that exists in the spiritual realm as husband and wife.
Now as far as the disrespect and neglect goes, sex is to be separate from issues because sex is not a reward for good behavior and not to be used as punishment for unpleasant behavior –unless it’s adultery. In the case of adultery, you should protect your health and take necessary precautions to prevent infection from sexually transmitted diseases. You would want to make biblical appeals to your husband regarding his neglectful and disrespectful behavior. The enemy creates division by deceiving us into believing that everything must be all good before we can engage in sex with our spouses. He starts in the marriage bed and deceives us by whispering to us to withhold sex and affection because we have some marriage issues. We have to address those issues, but we cannot allow them to hold us hostage and in bondage from undressing for sexual intimacy with our husbands. Another great verse of wisdom is God’s admonishment in 1 Corinthians 7:4 which says: ” The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.”
In marriage, we have no authority to say to our spouses that they lack authority to have sexual intercourse with us. We are one- flesh with our husbands and it applies to them, as well.
When problems arise in your marriage, remember that you cannot necessarily solve them between the sheets with your spouse. You can, however, by maintaining a healthy sex life, create an atmosphere where understandings can be reached.
Cassandra Salamone
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Today’s Marriage Manna takes an up-close look at the dirty facts about the immoral seductress and the fate of the man who falls for an adulterous lifestyle. Sometimes things look and feel better when they are enjoyed in the dark–in secret. That is one of the deceptive appeals of adultery, but we have God’s Word to shed a bright light on this lie so we may understand exactly how unappealing and destructive adultery truly is.
Read on in Proverbs 5:1-6 the Message version:
” Dear friend, pay close attention to this, my wisdom; listen very closely to the way I see it.
Then you’ll acquire a taste for good sense; what I tell you will keep you out of trouble.
3-6 The lips of a seductive woman are oh so sweet, her soft words are oh so smooth.
But it won’t be long before she’s gravel in your mouth, a pain in your gut, a wound in your heart.
She’s dancing down the primrose path to Death; she’s headed straight for Hell and taking you with her.
She hasn’t a clue about Real Life,
about who she is or where she’s going.”
God warns that the immoral seductress knows exactly what to say to satisfy a man’s ego. She knows what to say to make him feel good! Like he can do no wrong! If he goes on in adultery with her. If he cheats, after a time, he will regret knowing her. He won’t even want to speak her name and she will make him sick to his stomach! She will bruise his heart and cause it to be a confused tangled mess of emotions. She’s dancing and seems like she knows who she is and where she is going in life, but she has no clue! The only place she’s leading the poor fool who dances with her in the dark is to Hell!!!
In verses grouped 7-14, Proverbs continues:
“So, my friend, listen closely;
don’t treat my words casually.
Keep your distance from such a woman; absolutely stay out of her neighborhood.
You don’t want to squander your wonderful life, to waste your precious life among the hardhearted.”
Stay away from any woman who wants form an intimate relationship with you, men!!! Don’t go into neighborhood, not even a step or to drive through! Why waste your life on someone so hard of heart that she doesn’t even care about your other hall’s feelings–your wife’s? Any woman with a good heart doesn’t want to make another woman’s heart hurt by wrecking her marriage!
Proverbs has an abundance of manna concerning cheating, but one thing that strikes me the most is a deceptive lure of adultery and the consequence for the man who falls for that lure and into sin.
Lure of Adultery
Proverbs 9:17:
” “Stolen water is sweet;
food eaten in secret is delicious!” ”
The lure for the immoral seductress is that in her own lack, she can steal someone else’s husband to add pleasure and provisions to her life. The lure for the wayward husband is that he can enjoy the immoral seductress secretly! He can have his wife, and in secret, he can have this other woman who doesn’t have expectations for him the way his wife does. With the other woman, he can feel needed and built up without having to face his responsibilities and without accountability.
Consequence of Adultery
Proverbs 6:26, Amplified version:
” For on account of a harlot a man is brought to a piece of bread, and the adulteress stalks and snares [as with a hook] the precious life [of a man].”
The immoral seductress will reduce a wayward husband to a crust of bread!!! She will use him up and suck all of the livelihood out of his soul because although he may think he sought her out, the devil put her in his path!!! She will prey on him and do everything in her might to keep him hooked into her so that she might keep him from his wife!!! When the immoral seductress comes, it is not a coincidence. She was not sent by God!!! The enemy has known that wayward husband’s weariness of his wife and set him up to fall for lust with a woman who he knows will destroy his heart and mess his mind up!
The manna for today is a warning and gives specific guidance concerning the immoral seductress. For a man to say the adultery just happens, is a man that lacks knowledge. God says in Hosea 4:6: ” My people are destroyed from lack of knowledge…”
Genesis 4: grouped verses 6-7 Message version states “… sin is lying in wait for you, ready to pounce; it’s out to get you, you’ve got to master it.”
Husbands, be informed that adultery doesn’t just happen. It’s a set-up for you by the enemy to lead you to Hell. JUST BECAUSE A WOMAN IS THERE LOOKING GOOD AND SMELLING RIGHT, TELLING YOU ALL THE RIGHT THINGS DOES NOT MEAN SHE IS RIGHT! DON’T ACT ON YOUR LUST!
It’s not a divine attraction or meeting when the woman of your dreams is not your wife. It’s an excursion to Hell. Stay away from adultery and guard your precious lives from the immoral seductress.
Cassandra Salamone
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Monday I will begin a study on “The Excellent Wife:Day by Day” devotional in my private Facebook group Marriage Mints Cup of Comfort~Wives Café. If you are looking to better yourself as a wife, according to God’s standards, do visit my group and request to be added! This is a season of order! Many want the blessings and restoration. Our God likes to bless where there is order, so even if your husband is out of order, come be a part of this blessed study and allow God to start ordering your household beginning with you! This study is truly going to bless us, especially those ladies who are facing difficulties in their marriages! I remember being in the valley in a desert season in my marriage when I felt very alone. Drawing near to God and immersing myself in His Word as well as in studies of how to be the wife He calls me to be, made a tremendous difference! It made the valley ever so sweet and the desert became an oasis as I focused on allowing God to mold me and make changes in my heart. I remember being told that my dream to write books to help other wives would not happen because my marriage had not reached the mountaintop. I’m so glad that I disregarded that ill advice because not only did God give me a testimony to share in the valley, He gave me the basis for the books I did go on to write. He gave me peace that surpasses understanding and joy when if one looked at my circumstances, by all natural means, I should have been depressed and defeated. I glowed with His peace and He used that to make my husband notice me again–not just in a new light but he caused my husband to really see me in His light! While I was in the valley, the Lord fanned the flames in me to have a desire to teach and help other wives to live “wisely and purely” so that His word is not disgraced. He gave me a heart to begin walking out my Titus 2 calling. My hope is that you’ll go into this study with me and know that God wants to use you too! He wants us to become excellent wives with our excellence not based on idolizing the picture of Proverbs 31 wife but based upon Christ’s excellence. He wants us to be diligent workers of our homes in making our homes a place that ushers in His presence and peace. He wants us to learn how to submit and how to love our husbands and children. It’s my hope that this study will bring glory to the Lord as He is magnified in our lives!
Titus 2:4-5~
” These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.”
2 Timothy 2:15 ~
” Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.”
Cassandra Salamone ♡
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Hi, Friends!
I am writing to remind you to occasionally utilize the full, desktop version of Facebook when you visit Cassandra’s Marriage Mints page in order to experience the full benefits of my ministry’s resources. I know it’s easier to surf Facebook on your mobile phones and tablets; however, the mobile FB apps will not permit the option to view or access the new tabs that were recently updated to the page. I don’t want any of you to miss out!
Today, I’m working on a “Welcome” tab to briefly introduce myself to newcomers and also a tab for “Webconference Coaching Workshops” where ladies can sign up to chat with me, pray for one another, and view videos of ministry leaders’ teachings for FREE via an integrated telephone/online conference call♡! Last year, I held similar webconferencing calls on the weekends and shared a Bible study teaching of Priscilla Shirer’s that was based on the book of Jonah. The groups were small but that did not limit the power and presence of the Lord! I’ll tell you, God will show up when He is invited and glorified! I was able to make the acquaintances of several wives and it was a special, blessed time in the short history of my ministry. I don’t know who the Lord is going to lead me to this time or what topic He will lead me to focus upon, but I am excited, ready to learn along with you and prepared to motivate you as you climb those mountains in your marriage! We all face our own trials, but as sisters in Christ, we can take the journey together. ♡
Although this is primarily a Facebook-based marriage ministry, I am in position to offer resources such as the workshops , so this page can become more of an interactive community that is multi-dimensional vs. merely offering pics to be Liked 🙂 Don’t get me wrong; continue Liking the posts! But I also encourage you to take full advantage of the resource tabs that are located under the FB cover photo. Currently, there are clickable tabs for ‘Photos’and the NEW! tabs are ****Blog**** and ‘Spring Newsletter’ with the newest ones I’m working on to be added later today. When you visit the tabs, please type your name as a comment as a way of signing a “guestbook” to let me know you can access these tabs.
I’m looking forward to getting to know more of you ladies in the webconferencing workshops! I know there are wives who are really going through some hard times in their marriage or who would simply like to fellowship with other godly wives. If you’re ready to be encouraged, be built up, and empowered, be sure to watch out for the NEW! tab “Webconference Coaching Workshops” and sign up! ***FYI: If you’re skeptical about calling in on a conference call for the workshops, keep in mind that you can privately send a message to me online during the call for prayer. It is not mandatory that you talk if you do not wish to speak; you can simply dial in, listen, and enjoy videos. ***
Thanks for being a part of this ministry and may God bless you!
Cassandra♡
Everyone loves this time of the year! Families gather together to decorate their Christmas trees and string up lights! The sounds of Christmas music can be heard in almost every retail store! Stockings are hung! Children anticipate Christmas morning when they can unwrap their presents piled so neatly underneath the tree!
But is that what this holiday is about? Bright lights? Christmas trees? And giving and receiving presents?
This season heralds hope and belief in miracles. The truest and greatest miracle has already been given. That miracle is Jesus Christ, and He gave those who believe in Him the gift of eternal life and redemption from the curse of sin. Jesus is the reason for this and every season; and to help you keep your focus on Him this Christmas, I invite you to follow and join in on the Advent Study, which has already begun on my Facebook ministry page!
Each day leading to Christmas, I will post Scriptures and readings from Kirsten Oliphant’s “Make Him Room”. It is my hope that you will join in and that amidst all of the hubbub of this commercialized season, you and your families will keep your minds stayed on Jesus. May God bless us all ♥
Cassandra
Happy Friday evening! I would like to invite you to register for tonight’s prayer web conference call at 9:30pmEST. I will be hosting and giving a Live reading about 3 Wives of Valor from my book “Removing the Veil”! We will also continue on with Priscilla Shirer’s Jonah study with video 2! I invite any woman who is looking for a word of encouragement and needs prayer. If you’re interested, simply register at :
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Hope to see you join in :+)
Sincerely,
Cassandra
How many of you have experienced your life become interrupted? Perhaps your marriage is being interrupted by storms of strife, adultery, perhaps your spouse has left you and wants a divorce? Perhaps you are considering a divorce because you do not wish to stay married to your spouse because you feel he/she is sinning against you or simply does not make you happy anymore. All throughout our lives, we will experience interruptions–some by God’s hand and some will naturally be a consequence to some actions we have taken or failed to take.
I know that many wives are experiencing an interruption in their marriages, and may want to flee from the chaos. (I am not speaking of violent or abusive situations***)
God has called you to stand on His Word and obediently walk in it to reflect and minister the love of Christ to your husband. He may very well be using the storm in your marriage to grab your attention, to get some alone time with you just as Jonah did inside of the fish’s belly, and to use you to stir up a revival in your marriage. God is calling you to be obedient to the instructions He has given you, so that you may save a rebellious city–your husband. Don’t give up!
I invite you to join me on Friday’s for a weekly teaching video of Priscilla Shirer’s ‘Jonah: Navigating Life Interrupted” Bible study. Tonight’s Prayer web conference call will be at 9pm EST. I invite you to take the plunge with me into the fish’s belly–into time alone with the Lord with your prayers–to seek God’s will in your journey. All you have to do to join in on this webcast video and prayer call is register at:
I look forward to taking the plunge with you!
God bless ❤
Cassandra
I just want to take this time to welcome all of my new members to my ministry! I’m Cassandra, and I am so glad to be meeting new wives online in my Facebook community page. I have seen an increase in wives reaching out for prayer and counsel! I want to encourage you to message me any time if you are in need of being uplifted and motivated in your walks with God!
It is my humble honor to be of service to you and stand in agreement with you as you pray for God’s will in your marriages.
I want to invite the wives and the husbands and the singles to join me–take a walk with me–in an effort to be more intentional about having quiet time with the Lord. It is so essential for peace and so we can hear from Him the directions and guidance that will order our steps.
Come! Walk With Me
At the beginning of your day, have a cup of tea, coffee, or water w/lemon. Sit someplace where it is cozy and quiet. Pray and seek God’s peace for your day. Thank Him. Then, read from your Bible uninterrupted for at least 20 minutes or read a devotional that is based on His Word.
Throughout your day, pray and thank God instead of complaining. Drive in silence or play praise and worship music.
If you are joining me for this “walk”, I encourage you to share how it changes you. I will be sure to share about mine as well 🙂
Thank you and God bless!
Cassandra
In Ephesians 6, God uses Paul to instruct us on how to put on “the whole armor of God”. God wants us to be prepared to protect ourselves from the enemy whether single or married. Let’s take a look at what His Word says:
“ 0 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. 11 Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. 12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age,[c
] against spiritual “hosts” of wickedness in the heavenly “places.” 13 Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.
14 Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, 15 and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; 16 above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. 17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; 18 praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints— “
In looking at these verses, let’s look closer at everything that makes up the “whole armor” and apply it to our lives.
The Whole Armor of God:
1. You must stand and gird your waist with truth. Stand up and take up your cause for your marriage/life in general! Be ready to fight for what’s yours! You must, first, surround or encircled your waist with truth. I think of a belt when I see “gird”. A belt can prevent a person’s pants from falling down. If a person’s pants fall down during a fight, he/she will probably lose! Or their opponent will get the best of them! In order that the devil does not get the best of us–catch us with our bottoms falling down–we need to fasten truth around our waist. We must gird ourselves with the truth according to what God says in His Word!
2. We must put on our breastplates of righteousness. A breastplate is a specific coverage of protection. It’s not for decoration or just for show. A breastplate is meant to protect the heart! To prevent a fatal deathblow to our hearts. The enemy knows that if he can reach our heart, he has rendered us either destroyed, helpless, or incapacitated. We have to protect our hearts by wearing our breastplates of righteousness. Proverbs 4:23 “ Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.”
How can we wear righteousness? We are able to wear the breastplates of righteousness in Christ! Only because of Jesus!! Thank You Lord!
2 Corinthians 5:21 “ 1 For He made Him who knew no sin “to be” sin for us, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him”.
3. We must shod our feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace. Whatever we do and wherever we go, we need to think “What would Jesus say/do?” Jesus traveled many places by foot, and everywhere He went, He shared the good news of the Kingdom with everyone. We have to stop thinking that we have to go to another country to be a missionary of God. We can share the gospel of peace with the person standing next to us in line at the grocery store. Everywhere we walk–in our homes, our jobs, and public places–we need to be about sharing the good news about Jesus and showing people Jesus in us by being at peace with everyone.
Romans 14:17-19 “For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit,because anyone who serves Christ in this way is pleasing to God and approved by men. Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.”
2 Corinthians 5:18-20 “ Now all things “are” of God, who has reconciled us to Himself through Jesus Christ, and has given us the ministry of reconciliation, 19 that is, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not imputing their trespasses to them, and has committed to us the word of reconciliation.
20 Now then, we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God were pleading through us: we implore “you” on Christ’s behalf, be reconciled to God”.
4. Above all else, we must take up our shield of faith. Our faith is our shield! Remember, we only need a mustard seed to cast a mountain into the sea (Matthew 21:21), so always be asking God to increase your faith. We want to have our faith up as a shield against any fiery attacks and trials that the enemy launches at us. Therefore, it is important to fix your faith securely in God and not on another person’s performance so your faith can remain unshaken. Think about the movies, how a warrior holds up his shield under a relentless assailant who tirelessly launches fiery arrows. The enemy does just that! We just have to keep our faith fixed in the Lord and have our shield ready–our faith secure in His promises — every time the enemy launches a fiery dart.
1 Corinthians 16: 13 ” Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be men of courage; be strong.”
5. Our helmets of salvation. A helmets is used to protect us from a head injury. We must protect our thoughts and know who we are in Christ! If a person does not know his/her identity in Christ, the enemy can trick that person into falling for his deceptive snares.
Titus 3:5 “ He saved us, not because of works done by us in righteousness, but according to his own mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit,”
John 5:24 “ Truly, truly, I say to you, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life. He does not come into judgment, but has passed from death to life.”
Romans 8:1 ” There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”
1 Peter 1:5-9 ” o are kept by the power of God through faith for salvation ready to be revealed in the last time.
6 In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while, if need be, you have been grieved by various trials, 7 that the genuineness of your faith,”being” much more precious than gold that perishes, though it is tested by fire, may be found to praise, honor, and glory at the revelation of Jesus Christ, 8 whom having not seen[a
] you love. Though now you do not see “Him,”yet believing, you rejoice with joy inexpressible and full of glory,9 receiving the end of your faith—the salvation of “your” souls.”
One of the oldest tricks of the enemy is to encourage thoughts of condemnation and deceive a person into thinking their salvation is based on their works. Our salvation is based on the finished work of Jesus Christ when He laid His life down upon the cross. It is finished! It is only because of Jesus!! Thank You Lord!!!!! Keep your helmets of salvation on because they are paid for with the precious blood of Christ
6. Wield the sword of the Spirit, the Word of God actively! With intention and be purposeful! God’s Word is a mighty weapon against the enemy! For every proposition the devil made to Jesus in the wilderness, Jesus answered Him by speaking God’s Word (Matthew 4)! That is what we must do when we are faced with afflictions and trials. We must slice through the lies with certainty and without hesitation!
Hebrews 4:12 “ or the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.”
7. We must PRAY! ALWAYS! We must be watchful and alert.
1 Peter 5:8 “ Be sober, be vigilant; because[a] your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.”
1 Peter 1:13 ” Therefore gird up the loins of your mind, be sober, and rest “your” hope fully upon the grace that is to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ;”
We must be diligent to stay awake spiritually. We must remain alert because the enemy is always waiting to see whether we will become distracted in an attempt to catch us when we are unaware and spiritually sleeping. We must, therefore, pray continually and be ready to aggressively defend ourselves with the mighty weapons God has provided! We can counterattack and defend ourselves against the enemy by using the Word of God. We must aggressively wield it and speak it over our marriages and lives, in general. We must pray–always being on the offensive–and be the aggressor. We do not want to wait to pray only when we are being attacked. We want to pray continually so we are always communicating with God who ensures we have the victory in Christ!
I pray this study on the full armor of God blesses you.
Cassandra Salamone
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