#9: Domestic Violence Awareness Blog Series

Today’s post is a very comprehensive collection of photos that explores what survivors of domestic abuse have to say and also provides encouragement to support victims who are afraid to get help. It’s not October yet, but it’s always the right time to learn about domestic violence prevention. Be blessed, safe, informed, and thank you for joining me in this Domestic Violence Awareness Series!

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If you’re a domestic violence survivor, don’t be ashamed. Be empowered to share your testimony with others. Your story just may help free someone else.

The following photos share the words of some women who overcame domestic abuse.

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One of the weapons wielded  against victims is the lie that they have no options–that she has to stay with their abuser.
If you see or hear domestic violence occurring, do not remain silent. If you do not wish to confront the abuser, call the police.

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Many women who are in abusive relationships find it difficult to leave. However, leaving is key to their safety!

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It is possible to leave and overcome the abuse! You do not have to stay and suffer in silence!

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Recognize the abuse. Report it. Prevent it.

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Praying in agreement in Jesus’s name against domestic violence in relationships and marriages. Amen💗
Please get involved in the fight against domestic violence. Visit
http://purplepurse.com and support the Pass the Purse campaign to raise awareness of domestic violence, help domestic violence survivors, and stop the cycle abuse!

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Kerry Washington is the ambassador for the Purple Purse campaign and is carrying the purple purse that you can enter to win.
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Visit the website for more details. Get involved ☺
Cassandra Salamone
All rights reserved.  2014.

#7 and #8: Domestic Violence Awareness Blog Series

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The more we are able to identify the abusive characteristics of a person, we stand a chance of avoiding domestic violence. Chances are if a woman knows what abuse looks like, that knowledge just might save her from being in an abusive relationship in the first place. Let’s empower ourselves to learn as much as we can about domestic abuse.

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Don’t be a domestic violence statistic. Refuse to be a victim.

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Domestic abuse is not about love. It’s about control! It’s not about that person knowing what’s best for you. It’s about him trying to manipulate you so you are too afraid to do what’s best for you, and that is Get Away and Get Help!

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Don’t allow yourself to become trapped in his cycle of power and control! Recognize the cycle will never stop once it begins. Once it begins, the abuser will just roll right over you!

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Amen!! Abuse is abuse!!! Call it what it is and don’t romanticize it. A man who loves you doesn’t hurt you. A man who loves you will get himself the help he needs and even leave himself to take responsibility of his lack of control and anger issues. He will not allow himself to abuse you!

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It’s important to realize that if you are in an abusive marriage or relationship, there are provisions and resources that exist to help you get out of that situation:
*Emotional Support
*Emergency Shelter
*Public Benefits
*Job Assistance
*Children’s Counseling
*Legal Services

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It’s important to reach out to politicians and community leaders if you notice there are no shelters in your community to assist domestic violence victims who are fleeing and seeking safety and shelter for themselves and their children. Reach out and advocate. Write letters to your mayor and senators. Be a voice for the voiceless in your community.

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If your family member, friend, coworker, or neighbor is in an abusive relationship, you can be a friend to that person. Be there for her and let her know she is not alone. Let her know there are healthy, safe options for her.
If you are a victim, the best way to fight back is to get help for yourself and leave.

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Do not ever think that you deserve abuse or that it’s ever your fault!

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Men can also advocate for abused as well! Speak up! Don’t stand by and be a witness. Take a stand against  abusive men by not remaining silent.

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Cassandra’s Marriage Mints fully supports Domestic Violence Prevention! 

#6: Domestic Violence Awareness Blog Series

Many women stay with their abusers and their silence adds further injury to the insult of domestic violence by contributing emotional issues. Abused women don’t understand their identities in Christ and can end up basing their self-worth upon the abusive partner’s treatment of them.

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Some women even believe they are responsible for their husbands’ abusive behavior,  but the truth is: No matter how much a woman changes of herself, her husband will not change until he decides to make a change. 

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If you know someone who is experiencing abuse, let her know that you support her. Let her know she is not alone.

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Do all that you can, within reason, to help 💗
Cassandra Salamone
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#4: Domestic Violence Awareness Blog Series

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This chart shows the cycle of domestic violence and includes the various responses from the victim in each section. I think it’s worth noting that this cycle, like marriage, includes a honeymoon. However, the honeymoon associated with domestic abuse is not a celebration of a lifetime of learning to live as one, but is the calm before the storm. It’s the deceptive peace that precedes the explosion of abuse in whatever form the abuser unleashes it.

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Please recognize the signs of abuse and get help!!!

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If you are in an abusive marriage or relationship or you know someone who is, do what you can to end the cycle of domestic violence. 
Please know that you are loved and worthy of being respected.

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Amen and God bless!

#3: Domestic Violence Awareness Blog Series

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(Courtesy: Beauty Cares.)
Many women who end up with an abusive husband never saw it coming. They either did not recognize the warning signs of domestic abuse or their partners never indicated that they had abusive tendencies until the moment they acted out the abuse. That is why it is important for us to learn exactly what those warning signs look like.
The 8 warning signs posted by Beauty Cares clearly represent behaviors that are sinful and may encompass verbal, physical, emotional, sexual, and financial abuse.

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It’s highly important that we recognize the warning signs no matter how subtle and innocent they appear to be.

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Whether you are married or dating, do not ignore the warning signs. Your life, physical and emotional well-being might be at risk if you do not pay attention. Without understanding what domestic violence or abusive behaviors look like and feel like, it becomes difficult to prevent them from taking place.
Recognizing Warning Signs = Knowledge = Increased Prevention
Thanks for taking time to recognize the signs with me today!
God bless!
Cassandra Salamone
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#2: Domestic Violence Awareness Series

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Unlike this graphic portrayal of the Disney character Cinderella,
domestic violence is sadly a very real part of everyday life for many women. The ironic twist is that just as Cinderella’s glass coach reverted to its identity as a pumpkin and her dance with Prince Charming came to a jarring halt as the clock struck twelve, abused women have had their lives and well-being shattered as their husbands/boyfriends transform from being the men who love and adore them to being their worst nightmare.
Maybe you are facing domestic violence in your marriage. If you are, the question to ask is not “When did he stop treating you like a princess?” The important question to ask yourself is “What am I going to do to get my glass slipper back?  Because you lost something when the man you adored transformed! You lost a piece of your identity and you began to run from yourself inside as you faced the reality he began to show you. Back to that important question: you don’t have a fairy godmother. You can turn to God!!! Turn to Jesus and ask Him to make a way for you to find your slipper again: your peace, your joy, your health, your safety and security, the man you love once again!!! Trust Him and take action to get yourself some help and refuge from the abuse until you can safely reconcile with your Prince Charming without fear. Prince Charming needs to treat you like the princess, like the daughter of God that you are.
With love,
Cassandra Salamone
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Domestic Violence Awareness Series: #1

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October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. I’m working on a blog series to address this serious issue ahead of time. I was reminded several days ago in my private FB group Marriage Mints Cup of Comfort~Wives Café  by a wife who reached out in her distress that domestic violence is an everyday issue for many women that is too often ignored and swept under the rug. Domestic violence is an issue that no one wants to experience, and many find it difficult to spend too much time thinking about because it disturbs their souls. I have fallen into the category of not wanting to think about it or to see images that show the hurtful truth of domestic violence. However, I now feel that as a Christian woman it is my duty and responsibility to be a light, just as Jesus calls us to be (Matt. 5:14).  I want to be a friend at all times, not just during the month of October when I can wear a purple ribbon and neatly pack it away when November begins. I want to be aware of domestic violence every month, so I can be a light of encouragement and support for women in darkness who are being abused–physically, verbally, emotionally, mentally, financially.
Part of being a light is not hiding from darkness or turning a blind eye to it (Matt. 5:15). Being a light means one must expose the darkness. Therefore, because it is important to recognize it for the evil it truly is, everyday I will post a blog as part of this series to address domestic violence and educate other women. No mentally competent woman goes into a relationship with the intentions of being abused. Many simply don’t understand the warning signs of what domestic violence looks like. Domestic violence is as evil and sinister as adultery, and I pray that the series will encourage any of you who may be in an abusive marriage to get the help you need and the strength to get away from it.
Matthew 5:13-16
” 13 “You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot. 14 “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden.
15 Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”

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If you do not feel safe in your own home, you need to take the necessary steps to either get away from the abuser or to have the abuser removed from your home by the authorities. If there was a rabid animal in your home, wouldn’t you call animal control to make sure that you didn’t get bitten? A violent or abusive person is like a diseased animal because they lack self-control and, if permitted, will inflict their rabid anger upon you.
No woman should have to live in fear under the tyrannical, intimidation of her husband, or any man, for that matter! Husbands are commanded by God to love and cherish their wives (Eph. 5:25). Wives need to understand that we are not commanded by God to submit to sin. Galatians 5:1 says: ” For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery.” I know this verse in its context is speaking about remaining free from a bondage of sin in Christ Jesus. I believe it can apply to this situation involving wives not submitting to sin of domestic violence.  Domestic violence is very much like a yoke of slavery or bondage as the abuser attempts to control their victim. A yoke is cumbersome and placed upon the shoulders of animals in order to control them. An abusive relationship can become like a yoke around the shoulders and neck of the one being abused. No one should have to bear up under the weight of another person’s anger and control issues. In Christ, we are free! Don’t allow yourself to be enslaved again! Amen!!!
Domestic violence is sin of wrath and has sadly ended in the murder of the abused victims, in plenty of cases. Therefore, if you feel your life or well-being are in danger, dial 911 and immediately take precautions to protect yourself!
Cassandra Salamone
All rights reserved. 2014