Are you standing for the restoration of your marriage? If you are, it is one of life’s most difficult spiritual journeys. I am walking with Jesus in my own pilgrimage as a stander so I understand the need to lean on God’s Word for strength and balance.
The Stander’s Pilgrimage Study is a series of lessons based on Bible Scriptures that will incorporate a mixture of encouraging word, prayer, photos, and music to refresh your hope in the Lord as you stand.
Maybe the beatings of our marriage trials are permitted by God to cleanse evil away from us. Perhaps the suffering of these afflictions –the betrayal, rejection, sorrow, and brokenheartedness– we willingly endure are permitted so that wounds open us up and expose what needs healing inside of our own hearts. Yes the transgressions that hurt us can pierce us and rip our hearts wide open so that we can be healed where we did not know we needed healing. We are not above the sufferings of Christ Jesus. By Jesus’ stripes we’re healed, and maybe the stripes we endure are so we will reach out to Jesus and find peace in the One Who was chastised for our sins. In the One Whose chastisement secured our peace in Him. His healing reaches the inner depths of our hearts (Matthew 15:19) –into the deepest soil of our hearts where seeds of our own sin germinate. There in that deep wounded heart we can find peace in Jesus and not be overcome by the sin that has been transgressed against God against us by our prodigals. We can have compassion and persevere in praying for the salvation of the heart of our prodigal spouses that they too will turn to Jesus and be healed. When the depths of our hearts are exposed by pain, what sits upon the throne of our heart is revealed. We have an opportunity to allow Jesus to cleanse our heart and give us a new understanding of His love. Remove the crown from your pain. Forgive your prodigal because they know not what they truly do because they do not know the love of JESUS. While our prodigal’s transgressions–their pride, their anger, their adultery, their brokenness– may have separated is from their love, we can have the assurance and peace that absolutely nothing can separate us from the love of God. Having that knowledge of the unimaginable pain Jesus endured when he was flogged, spat upon, beaten, crowned with a piercing crown of thorns; when He carried His own cross before being nailed upon it– we then can understand that His love for us is bigger than pain because the purpose of His love cannot be stopped! His love cannot be blocked from us by anything or anyone! (Romans 8:31-39)
This is the love that our prodigals do not have cannot demonstrate to us because they do not have the revelation and understanding yet of Jesus’ love. Pray for peace for the Prince of Peace Who is Jesus to give them a revelation of His love and a burden to repent so they have a desire to pick their crosses back up and finish the race with you in your marriage. May the stripes in our marriages be healed by the One Whose stripes bled perfect love of God. Amen
Amen 🙏🏽 Proverbs 20:30, NKJV~ “Blows that hurt cleanse away evil, As do stripes the inner depths of the heart.” Isaiah 53:5, NKJV~ “But He was wounded[a] for our transgressions, He was [b]bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes[c] we are healed.” *Footnotes: Isaiah 53:5[a] Or pierced through Isaiah 53:5[b] crushed Isaiah 53:5[c] Blows that cut in Matthew 15:19~ “For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies:”
Romans 8:31-39, NLT~ “
What shall we say about such wonderful things as these? If God is for us, who can ever be against us? 32 Since he did not spare even his own Son but gave him up for us all, won’t he also give us everything else? 33 Who dares accuse us whom God has chosen for his own? No one—for God himself has given us right standing with himself. 34 Who then will condemn us? No one—for Christ Jesus died for us and was raised to life for us, and he is sitting in the place of honor at God’s right hand, pleading for us.
35 Can anything ever separate us from Christ’s love? Does it mean he no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or hungry, or destitute, or in danger, or threatened with death? 36 (As the Scriptures say, “For your sake we are killed every day; we are being slaughtered like sheep.”[a]) 37 No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us.
38 And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,[b] neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. 39 No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
My new prayer for the other women is that God will remove her from married men’s lives. That she’d be reassigned, rerouted, redirected, and reversed from every open gate of access to them. May the other women lose interest in being either emotionally or physically available to married men in the name of JESUS. May every point of access to a married man be hedged up with thorns as in Hosea 2:6 that would prick their conscience and cause them to recoil, to jump back AWAY from them. AWAY from meeting or speaking to a married man. May they FLEE from married men! May God bless the other women with single unmarried men and hedge off those men who have wives standing for them for their covenant marriages. May the other women be confounded and lose desire to be with or connect with anyone’s husband. May they fear God and His wrath. May they suddenly understand that their pride in being with a married man comes before their fall to destruction. May the spiritual blinders fall off and they repent of entreating and entertaining married men in sin. In Jesus’ name AMEN 🙌🏽🙏🏽
A marriage without God is like a pride of bald lions with no mane and no appetite, a flock of peacocks with no feathers, oceans devoid of fish and aquatic life, the Arctic completely thawed of its snow and ice.
A marriage without God is a marriage without its crowning glory and lacking Who makes it BEAUTIFUL–GOD 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 Prayer 🛐🛐🛐
Lord God show us how we have exiled you from our midst and turned away from desiring Your presence. Help your covenant marriages. Restore unto husbands and wives the glory and blessing of Your presence as we return You to our presence into our hearts into our households. Your presence is needed and desired among us in our marriages. Without You Lord, they are without glory and we just want to honor You in how we display the beauty of Your creation– our covenant marriage. According to Your Word in 1 Chronicles 13, give us the desire and longing for Your presence so that we make Your will our focus all to Your glory. In Jesus’ name, AMEN 🛐🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
1 Chronicles 13:3-4 ~”Let us take the covenant chest of our God from its exile in Kiriath-jearim and return it to our presence, making it our focus, since we did not keep it with us during Saul’s reign. Everyone agreed with David that this was right: the chest of the covenant should be among the people.”
I receive this and decree by faith it is already done in Jesus’ name🙏🏽 Feel free to claim this and pray for your own husband . 🛐
My husband by faith has prayed for God to bless him with wealth and success and God will answer by blessing him with wisdom to see my heart in his hands.
” A good woman is hard to find,
and worth far more than diamonds.
Her husband trusts her without reserve,
and never has reason to regret it.”
The worthless things of this world, he will allow to fall through his fingers as he turns his eyes away from what does not build up his relationship with God, our marriage and children. ”
““Oh, son of mine, what can you be thinking of!
Child whom I bore! The son I dedicated to God!
Don’t dissipate your virility on fortune-hunting women, promiscuous women who shipwreck leaders.”
~ Proverbs 31:2-3
My husband will understand that what God has placed in his hands must be honored and protected with responsible stewardship as he walks in his calling as the spiritual head of our marriage and family. My husband will no longer stumble along in life with no understanding of what God is doing. He will hold onto the Word of God and His ways seeing that what is of true value is what comes from Him not this world. As I rest in the Lord, He is revealing my heart and the hearts of our children to him. Thank You Lord.
“If people can’t see what God is doing,
they stumble all over themselves;
But when they attend to what he reveals,
they are most blessed.”
By faith I decree
My husband is no longer in bondage to a spirit of confusion concerning our marriage. He is no longer complaining or questioning God’s will and desire on our marriage. He understands that God never changes His mind on His covenants and neither should he. Instead of offending God, my husband is honoring God and our faith-bond by guarding the spirit of marriage within himself so he does not cheat. We honor the presence of God inhabiting every detail of our covenant marriage.
“And here’s a second offense: You fill the place of worship with your whining and sniveling because you don’t get what you want from God. Do you know why? Simple. Because God was there as a witness when you spoke your marriage vows to your young bride, and now you’ve broken those vows, broken the faith-bond with your vowed companion, your covenant wife. God, not you, made marriage. His Spirit inhabits even the smallest details of marriage. And what does he want from marriage? Children of God, that’s what. So guard the spirit of marriage within you. Don’t cheat on your spouse.
16 “I hate divorce,” says the God of Israel. God-of-the-Angel-Armies says, “I hate the violent dismembering of the ‘one flesh’ of marriage.” So watch yourselves. Don’t let your guard down. Don’t cheat.”
I decree and declare words of God BY FAITH over my husband and marriage IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST. AMEN🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Marriage is a husband and wife as one-flesh–both submitted to Christ’s Headship– carrying their cross (which is their flesh, their weaknesses, their carnal struggles) TO THE CROSS so they can be mutually sanctified. In that process Jesus’ love for His bride the church is demonstrated. Sacrificial love carrying their crosses as one to the Cross to the throne of grace where their flesh is crucified in the name of love to the will of FATHER GOD 🙏🏽
“And the Spirit makes it possible to submit humbly to one another out of respect for the Anointed. 22 Wives, it should be no different with your husbands. Submit to them as you do to the Lord, 23 for God has given husbands a sacred duty to lead as the Anointed leads the church and serves as the head. (The church is His body; He is her Savior.) 24 So wives should submit to their husbands, respectfully, in all things, just as the church yields to the Anointed One.
25-26 Husbands, you must love your wives so deeply, purely, and sacrificially that we can understand it only when we compare it to the love the Anointed One has for His bride, the church. We know He gave Himself up completely to make her His own, washing her clean of all her impurity with water and the powerful presence of His word. 27 He has given Himself so that He can present the church as His radiant bride, unstained, unwrinkled, and unblemished—completely free from all impurity—holy and innocent before Him. 28 So husbands should care for their wives as if their lives depended on it, the same way they care for their own bodies. As you love her, you ultimately are loving part of yourself (remember, you are one flesh). 29 No one really hates his own body; he takes care to feed and love it, just as the Anointed takes care of His church, 30 because we are living members of His body. 31 “And this is the reason a man leaves his father and his mother and is united with his wife; the two come together as one flesh.” 32 There is a great mystery reflected in this Scripture, and I say that it has to do with the marriage of the Anointed One and the church. 33 Nevertheless, each husband is to love and protect his own wife as if she were his very heart, and each wife is to respect her own husband.”
Husbands are to be one-flesh with their wives. They are to leave their fathers. Look at what a man’s father represents: who he listens to and follows; who he admires; who he accepts guidance and correction from; who he emulates and respects; who he seeks to be praised by. To what and to whom has your husband assigned to take a “father” position in his life? Has that role come between you and your husband? If so, this is a foundational marriage dysfunction that you need to fervently pray about. You need to pray that your husband will leave his father or “father(s)” and walk in his godly purpose as the husband God has called him to be. Amen!
May God prosper us wives under the umbrella of this ministry in their land of sorrow as He causes our husbands to forget their hardships and their parental homes both in the natural and spiritual realms– their fathers and any familial, generational strongholds– that Your covenant marriages will be doubly blessed! Doubly blessed with both walking together in agreement according to Your will. In Jesus’ Holy name, Amen 🙏🏽💗
“Joseph had two sons born to him before the years of famine came. Asenath, daughter of Potiphera the priest of On, was their mother. Joseph named the firstborn Manasseh (Forget), saying, “God made me forget all my hardships and my parental home.” He named his second son Ephraim (Double Prosperity), saying, “God has prospered me in the land of my sorrow.”
We all must guard our hearts. Married men in particular are charged to diligently protect their hearts by guarding their eyes because what you look at enters your heart. What we do flows from the heart. Husbands who guard their hearts are also protecting their wives from pain and the destructiveness that adultery births. Adultery begins as a look of lust upon someone other than your spouse way ahead of committing adultery by having sex. This is why adultery is not just an accident. Adultery can be prevented because it starts as a look followed by thoughts in a mind not set on Christ. Action is taken on the lustful desires of the heart.
James 1:13-15 “Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am being tempted by God”; for God cannot be tempted by evil, and He Himself does not tempt anyone. But each one is tempted when he is carried away and enticed by his own lust. Then when lust has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and when sin is accomplished, it brings forth death.”
Adultery is more prevalent than ever now with the pornographic, lewd nature of social media platforms such as Instagram. Now we know that the devil is the father of lies and a liar. He has convinced many that the content is just a photo or a post to like bit when we see the nature of what is being shared and presented for a “Like” or “❤” then you see how the purported innocence of it all is really twisted. There are so many women who are making a living out of posting photos of themselves in order to entice men to Like the photos and Follow them. It is rampant on Instagram and they pose and dance in lewd ways. That is the enemy’s plan to capture a man’s interest and the seed of lust is planted as they look upon these women.
Proverbs 6:25-29 “Do not desire her beauty in your heart, Nor let her capture you with her eyelids. For on account of a harlot one is reduced to a loaf of bread, And an adulteress hunts for the precious life. Can a man take fire in his bosom And his clothes not be burned?
Social media adultery is especially damaging to many marriages and the wives’ hearts and minds are left vulnerable to the attack of the enemy who launches fiery darts at their self-esteem, their trust, and their sense of feeling protected by their husbands. The Bible urges men to remove their eye if it will be the reason they could go to hell. I urge you to remove your eyes from social media or anyone that you look at with lust. Guard your eyes, your heart, your marriage and realize that you are guarding a right relationship with God because He sees what’s in your heart. God knows what you allow into your heart. If you need to repent of adultery, please don’t wait. Confess it to God asking forgiveness and repent. Confess it to your spouse so that you can immediately begin working together to build up your relationship and prayer life to protect your marriage. 🙏
Matthew 5:27-29, Amp. ~
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery’; 28 but I say to you that everyone who [so much as] looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye makes you stumble and leads you to sin, tear it out and throw it away [that is, remove yourself from the source of temptation]; for it is better for you to lose one of the parts of your body, than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. ”
God intends for a husband to lead his wife. He cannot lead her effectively without submitting Himself to the authority the Headship of Christ Jesus! Men of God, cover your wives! Pray for them and protect them in all manners—physically and spiritually! God intends for a husband to consider his wife in the decisions and choices he makes in life. She is the weaker vessel according to 1 Peter 3:7 and is called to “adapt herself” to you (v.6) and has more than likely left her kin and country to make a new life with you; so give honor to your wife and marriage.
Stop fighting each other and fight the enemy! Lead the prayers and be the leader—be the aggressors in spiritual warfare. Follow the leading of the Holy Spirit.
A strong marriage is one with Jesus at its center with husbands and wives ready to lift each other should one fall or stumble. They are submitted to each other out of reverence to Jesus.
UNITY AND PEACE, O LORD,
is what we pray for! Not just restoration and resurrection of dead marriages but REGENERATION! Regenerate and cause to grow —even multiply all those things in our hearts and lives that will EXCEEDINGLY BLESS MARRIAGES. Help both husbands and wives to work together to war together in the SPIRIT so the devil cannot have a foothold in our midsts! We are looking to You for miracles for Your touch upon prodigals to return them to their places at their spouse’s side so that kingdom couples can stride forward together taking the enemy by storm with GREAT VICTORY!!!! Show us how to wield our swords ⚔️ Your Word—against the enemy!!! Turn it around 🌬Breathe upon every husband and every wife and give each a revelation and willingness to obey Your will!!!! Place Your desires in our hearts that all the carnal longings will fall away and die as YOUR desires YOUR will fills our hearts to overflowing!!!! Make Your covenant marriages LIVING TESTIMONIES that we serve a LIVING GOD WHO PROMISES US VICTORY 🌈OVER THE ENEMY. We give You all the praise for all You have done and are about to do on our behalf.
In JESUS’ NAME AMEN 🛐 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
1 Peter 3:6-9 “just as Sarah obeyed Abraham [following him and having regard for him as head of their house], calling him lord. And you have become her daughters if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear [that is, being respectful toward your husband but not giving in to intimidation, nor allowing yourself to be led into sin, nor to be harmed]. In the same way, you husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way [with great gentleness and tact, and with an intelligent regard for the marriage relationship], as with someone physically weaker, since she is a woman. Show her honor and respect as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered or ineffective.
Finally, all of you be like-minded [united in spirit], sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted [courteous and compassionate toward each other as members of one household], and humble in spirit; and never return evil for evil or insult for insult [avoid scolding, berating, and any kind of abuse], but on the contrary, give a blessing [pray for one another’s well-being, contentment, and protection]; for you have been called for this very purpose, that you might inherit a blessing [from God that brings well-being, happiness, and protection].”
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 “Two are better than one because they have a more satisfying return for their labor; for if either of them falls, the one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and does not have another to lift him up. Again, if two lie down together, then they keep warm; but how can one be warm alone? And though one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”