God led me to just minister on the topic of marriage this first day of May. I pray this blesses you and encourages you to seek His will in your marriage.
It took me a long time to learn this but once I let go and let Jesus take the wheel, God had more room to work with in my marriage. It is not a wife’s job to act as the Holy Spirit to condemn and convict her husband. It is God’s command that she respect him and love him through his faults– allowing God to set him right with the conviction by the Holy Spirit. A husband can be won over to the right response and conduct without a word but by seeing the love and justice of God through a wife’s forgiveness and unconditional love.
1 Peter 3:1-2, Amplified :
“In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate, not as inferior, but out of respect for the responsibilities entrusted to husbands and their accountability to God, and so partnering with them] so that even if some do not obey the word [of God], they may be won over [to Christ] without discussion by the godly lives of their wives, 2 when they see your modest and respectful behavior [together with your devotion and appreciation—love your husband, encourage him, and enjoy him as a blessing from God].”
The way she lives her life in obedience to God’s Word can be used by God to shed light on any wickedness in operation in such a powerful way–like a torch which bears the love and Light of the Lord Jesus. God can use her obedient life as a means of opening her husband’s eyes–removing the scales, especially if he is an unbeliever so he is able to see error that he may correct it.
The beauty of a submissive wife is in her willingness to surrender her will to God’s will without fear. She trusts that if her husband’s leadership lands them in trouble, they may stumble as a unit; but God has the power to prevent those bad decisions and sin from making a complete end of them.
It is never God’s plan to see a wife be trodden down by her husband. It is never God’s plan that a husband’s headship be challenged at every turn.
Wives are to submit unless it is sin. When sin is involved, it is important that she privately and respectfully point it out to him in light of what God’s Word says about it. She need only do this in a prayerful and considerate manner not repetitive or in a contentious way.
Submitting does not mean a wife has no voice. A wife’s voice has an important place in the marriage and can often be used by God to warn a wayward husband; but she must be careful that her voice does not speak louder or supersede God’s voice in an effort to get her way or take control out of fear or selfish motives.
God’s plan for marriage is outlined and specified in Ephesians 5:22-33
“22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish.
28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.
29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”
In a grand perspective of God’s plan for marriage, it is to ultimately bring Him glory and demonstrate how Christ loved the church. Godly marriages demonstrate oneness, unity, harmony not strife, competition, ambivalence (mixed feelings about our spouses or what God says we must do in in His Word).
This is why it is first pointed out in Ephesians 5:20-21 the importance of: “giving thanks always for all things to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, 21 submitting to one another in the fear of God.”
It is important for a husband and wife to submit to each other out of reverence to God. They must be willing to come together in agreement with thankful spirits and humble hearts in order to seek the wisdom and loving guidance of the Creator of marriage. This is God-honoring and the world–believers and unbelievers alike–need to see more marriages operating righteously in Christ and bringing God glory. Amen 🙏🏽
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