When a marriage is restored, the heavens rejoice! The reconciled husband and wife certainly rejoice! Their children, friends, and family who support them in their marriage journey rejoice, and life can quickly move forward for the couple as God helps them to build a new future with each other day by day.
Moving forward after marriage restoration with your spouse is like assembling a new piece of furniture. You will need God’s instructions and the right tools. One of the most important tools is the ability to forgive– to look forward instead of gazing at the destruction behind you.
When God delivers your marriage, He steps in to see that sin is removed as He destroys what the enemy planted to destroy your marriage. Only, if you are fixated on the past transgressions and won’t let go to forgive, the marriage will be stalled from moving forward because you will be transfixed to the past.
Don’t be stuck gazing back at everything that went wrong like Lot’s wife in Genesis 19:
“24-25 Then God rained brimstone and fire down on Sodom and Gomorrah—a river of lava from God out of the sky!—and destroyed these cities and the entire plain and everyone who lived in the cities and everything that grew from the ground.
26 But Lot’s wife looked back and turned into a pillar of salt.”
Be salt and light. Preserve and savor your spouse’s efforts to make the changes needed to honor your covenant together. Flavor your marriage with the grace and strength of forgiveness. Don’t become like a pillar of salt. If you won’t give your spouse the chance to move beyond their past mistakes, instead of bringing out inherent good of your marriage (as salt), you will appear to be a frozen monument and reminder of all the bad, painful things God has already set your marriage free from!
Be salt and light. May God bless you!
Cassandra Salamone. Cassandra’s Marriage Mints. All rights reserved. ©2017April.