When your marriage is broken by adultery, you may be counseled that you should divorce according to the Scripture which specifies adultery as the only biblical reason to divorce (Matthew 5:32). Then, in meditating on that counsel, a conflict may ensue within their heart because that person may actually have hope in their heart that their wayward spouse might repent and come to their senses. That prodigal spouse may actually return only to waver indecisively and flop back to their adultery. Then, the hopeful spouse might lose their hope and therein is the gray area of factors that are highlighted when a spouse desires restoration amidst continuing adultery:1) God’s will. God can do whatever He wants to do whenever He desires to do it. He can change a person’s heart but wants them to want His help or at least desire to do the right thing. He does give us free will to choose.
2) That prodigal spouse’s will. They can be prayed for but they have the freedom to choose even if they choose to sin. If that spouse continues on in their sin in spite of your prayers, understand that the battle does not belong to you but to God. Keep praying and trusting God.
3) The committed spouse’s faith. Everyone does not have the same measure of faith and one may be able to remain holding on to God’s promises while the other may decide enough is enough. There is no condemnation in Christ. There is a book of the Bible Hosea which I believe is God providing us an account of how He can still work through a marriage stained by adultery; and there is 1 Corinthians 7:16 “For how do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband [by leading him to Christ]? Or how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife [by leading her to Christ]?”
If you are in a gray area of not knowing whether to divorce or hold on, keep seeking God’s guidance because God is moved by a person’s unshakable FAITH.
Amen and God bless 🙏🏽
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