Headship in His Hands (w/Prayer*)


“For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.” “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;” “For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church”
~ Ephesians 5: 23, 25, 28. KJV
As the man of his household, a husband can often feel weighted down by his responsibilities. He might feel as if he holds his whole world–his wife and children– in his hands. In a way he does, but a man will be wise to acknowledge that he and his family are in God’s hands. It becomes difficult for a husband to lead his wife if he does not clearly understand what his role is in his marriage. Therefore, he has to look to God. Husbands who do not look to God to learn their headship wind up making up their own rules as they go. As a result, they carry a much heavier burden than God purposed them to carry because they are not following His rules. They are out of order. Today’s verses admonish and emphasize that as the head of his wife, a husband is to love her. The world does not teach us the true meaning of love. It is not just a word, a thought, or a gift. Love is a way of living, but the definitions offered by society and perhaps his own wife might possible lead a husband to view his role as a baffling mystery. In order to lift the veil of confusion and clearly know his role, he must look at God’s definitions. When we consider God’s Word in declaring a husband’s headship over his wife, we see that love is an integral piece of that puzzle. In 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 NKJV, love is defined. Let’s break it down. The verses are provides and my counsel follows:
 4 “Love suffers long and
is kind;”
This tells us that love means one is in it for the long haul; and although there may pains that are being endured, you will not be embittered by them.
 “love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;” This tells us that a husband who loves his wife will not envy her or be her competition. He will not flaunt his headship over her in puffed up tyranny. He will not make his headship out to be something that needs to be glorified.
” 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;”
A husband who loves his wife as God commands will not be deliberately disrespectful to her. He will care about her feelings and be courteous to her. He will not be selfish but will look out for her interests instead of focusing upon his own. Loving his wife means he will not be incited to become violent with her. That also means that even if his wife does not submit to his headship, he is not provoked to wrath. He will not think evil or ungodly thoughts. He should meditate on Philippians 4: 8 and think on “whatever is right, noble, pure, admirable, lovely,” etc.  ‘6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;”
A husband who loves will not celebrate or be happy about wrongdoing, lies, or sin. He will delight in what is true!
” 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”
A husband who exercises his headship and loves his wife as God commands, will endure all situations–sickness, financial difficulties, seasons of feeling unloved by his wife, ALL things not some things that he decides upon. He will believe in God for His promises for ALL things concerning his wife, children, life. He will secure his hope in God for all things God has promised. There is nothing that he and his wife will go through that will make him stop loving her.
 Love never fails…”
A man who loves his wife as God instructs him to will never stop loving her. His love for her will not come to an end. His love for her will shine through every decision that he makes on her behalf and the behalf of their children. He will love her according to God’s definition of love, and although his wife or others may not understand or distinguish his love at times, he can walk confidently with the knowledge that he is following God’s order for headship of his family.
Husbands, the way you exercise your headship in love is key for you will be accountable to the Lord just as Adam in the garden of Eden. Take leadership of your homes and understand that if you fail to lead, the enemy will surely attempt to overthrow your marriage. Although Eve was the one the serpent approached, Adam made the ultimate decision to eat of the forbidden fruit in agreement with her and had to answer to God. “And they heard the sound of the LORD God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the LORD God among
the trees of the garden. 9 Then the LORD God called to Adam and said to him, “Where are you?” 10 So he said, I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid myself.”~ Genesis 3: 8-10, NKJV. Before looking within yourself or to your wife when you are contemplating decisions, look to God. He is the one you will have to explain yourself to regarding how you lead and love your wife here on earth. Look to His Word for instruction and gather strength from following His example in how you should lead your wife.
~~ Prayer ~~
Father God,
I want to thank You for anointing husbands to be the head of their wives. You have given them a role you especially designed for them to lead their wives and children under Your leadership. Lord, let them hear Your voice, and strengthen them in their daily tasks. Show them how to be the heads just as Christ is the head of them. Show them how to lead as servants who are looking out for their wife’s best interests out of love.
Lord, speak to the hearts of husbands who may be hiding from you out of guilt or shame because they do not want to answer for how they have/ have not led their wives. Make them accountable but also let them experience Your mercy so that they can learn from their mistakes and grow in wisdom as they follow Your ways. Bless their headship in Jesus’ name, Amen.
© “From Fear to Faith” 15-day devotional. Cassandra Salamone. All rights reserved. No reproduction.

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