The more we are able to identify the abusive characteristics of a person, we stand a chance of avoiding domestic violence. Chances are if a woman knows what abuse looks like, that knowledge just might save her from being in an abusive relationship in the first place. Let’s empower ourselves to learn as much as we can about domestic abuse.
Don’t be a domestic violence statistic. Refuse to be a victim.
Domestic abuse is not about love. It’s about control! It’s not about that person knowing what’s best for you. It’s about him trying to manipulate you so you are too afraid to do what’s best for you, and that is Get Away and Get Help!
Don’t allow yourself to become trapped in his cycle of power and control! Recognize the cycle will never stop once it begins. Once it begins, the abuser will just roll right over you!
Amen!! Abuse is abuse!!! Call it what it is and don’t romanticize it. A man who loves you doesn’t hurt you. A man who loves you will get himself the help he needs and even leave himself to take responsibility of his lack of control and anger issues. He will not allow himself to abuse you!
It’s important to realize that if you are in an abusive marriage or relationship, there are provisions and resources that exist to help you get out of that situation:
It’s important to reach out to politicians and community leaders if you notice there are no shelters in your community to assist domestic violence victims who are fleeing and seeking safety and shelter for themselves and their children. Reach out and advocate. Write letters to your mayor and senators. Be a voice for the voiceless in your community.
If your family member, friend, coworker, or neighbor is in an abusive relationship, you can be a friend to that person. Be there for her and let her know she is not alone. Let her know there are healthy, safe options for her.
If you are a victim, the best way to fight back is to get help for yourself and leave.
Do not ever think that you deserve abuse or that it’s ever your fault!
Men can also advocate for abused as well! Speak up! Don’t stand by and be a witness. Take a stand against abusive men by not remaining silent.
Cassandra’s Marriage Mints fully supports Domestic Violence Prevention!