October is Domestic Violence Awareness month. I’m working on a blog series to address this serious issue ahead of time. I was reminded several days ago in my private FB group Marriage Mints Cup of Comfort~Wives Café by a wife who reached out in her distress that domestic violence is an everyday issue for many women that is too often ignored and swept under the rug. Domestic violence is an issue that no one wants to experience, and many find it difficult to spend too much time thinking about because it disturbs their souls. I have fallen into the category of not wanting to think about it or to see images that show the hurtful truth of domestic violence. However, I now feel that as a Christian woman it is my duty and responsibility to be a light, just as Jesus calls us to be (Matt. 5:14). I want to be a friend at all times, not just during the month of October when I can wear a purple ribbon and neatly pack it away when November begins. I want to be aware of domestic violence every month, so I can be a light of encouragement and support for women in darkness who are being abused–physically, verbally, emotionally, mentally, financially.
Part of being a light is not hiding from darkness or turning a blind eye to it (Matt. 5:15). Being a light means one must expose the darkness. Therefore, because it is important to recognize it for the evil it truly is, everyday I will post a blog as part of this series to address domestic violence and educate other women. No mentally competent woman goes into a relationship with the intentions of being abused. Many simply don’t understand the warning signs of what domestic violence looks like. Domestic violence is as evil and sinister as adultery, and I pray that the series will encourage any of you who may be in an abusive marriage to get the help you need and the strength to get away from it.
” 13 “You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot. 14 “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden.
15 Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. 16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”
If you do not feel safe in your own home, you need to take the necessary steps to either get away from the abuser or to have the abuser removed from your home by the authorities. If there was a rabid animal in your home, wouldn’t you call animal control to make sure that you didn’t get bitten? A violent or abusive person is like a diseased animal because they lack self-control and, if permitted, will inflict their rabid anger upon you.
No woman should have to live in fear under the tyrannical, intimidation of her husband, or any man, for that matter! Husbands are commanded by God to love and cherish their wives (Eph. 5:25). Wives need to understand that we are not commanded by God to submit to sin. Galatians 5:1 says: ” For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery.” I know this verse in its context is speaking about remaining free from a bondage of sin in Christ Jesus. I believe it can apply to this situation involving wives not submitting to sin of domestic violence. Domestic violence is very much like a yoke of slavery or bondage as the abuser attempts to control their victim. A yoke is cumbersome and placed upon the shoulders of animals in order to control them. An abusive relationship can become like a yoke around the shoulders and neck of the one being abused. No one should have to bear up under the weight of another person’s anger and control issues. In Christ, we are free! Don’t allow yourself to be enslaved again! Amen!!!
Domestic violence is sin of wrath and has sadly ended in the murder of the abused victims, in plenty of cases. Therefore, if you feel your life or well-being are in danger, dial 911 and immediately take precautions to protect yourself!
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