Is flirting really harmless? When does accepting a compliment become sin?
It was just a thought–a suggestion–that was introduced to Eve by the serpent. But that pleasantly framed suggestion spawned ideas that led Eve to challenge the authority and love of God. That is how the enemy uses flirtations to get unsuspecting people to slip into adulterous thinking. There is nothing wrong with accepting a genuine, respectful compliment and moving forward; but if you find yourself consistently anticipating someone other than your spouse’s verbal affections, you are in dangerous territory. If you find yourself enjoying others’ flirtations, ask yourself why you enjoy them and if they are a substitute for your spouse’s or lack thereof. If what others say to you makes you feel like there is someone better than your spouse, something is not right. It may seem harmless, but remember the serpent and beware of slipping into sin.
It was only a suggestion,after all. However, it was that suggestion that gave rise to thoughts in Eve’s mind that there was something better for her than what God had already provided for her! Then, in the events that followed, a beautiful life that could have been spent living in perfection with her husband Adam was destroyed by sin. Don’t let that happen to you. If your spouse is sparse with offering you verbal affections or flirtations, do have patience and wait for them. Reserve your desire to receive those affections from him/her. When it comes from their lips, it’s altogether more beloved and especially for you! Don’t partake of the strange fruit that is offered to you from others because, although it may look pleasant, the motive behind it being offered to you may be rooted in evil. Enjoy sweetness that comes from your spouse’s lips.
“Like an apple tree among the trees of the woods,
So is my beloved among the sons.
I sat down in his shade with great delight,
And his fruit was sweet to my taste.” ~Song of Solomon 2:3
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