Keeping Your Marriage Bee-a-utiful!

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There are many ways a husband and his wife can work together to keep their marriage beautiful,and a hint is included in the title! Couples can learn a lot from beekeepers about how to make their marriage a sweet partnership. We are each keepers, and it’s our responsibility to use all of the resources and equipment God has provided us with to maintain our bees, which represent our words!
Hebrews 13:20-21~ ” Now the God of peace, who brought up from the dead the great Shepherd of the sheep through the blood of the eternal covenant, even Jesus our Lord, 21 equip you in every good thing to do His will, working in us that which is pleasing in His sight, through Jesus Christ, to whom be the glory forever and ever. Amen.”
Our words are like bees and our hearts are the hives. Matthew 15:18 says: ” But the things that come out of a person’s mouth come from the heart, and these defile them.” Actual beehives are ruled by a queenbee, and in like manner, we need to make sure our hearts are ordered by and also a dwelling place for King Jesus, our Lord and Savior.
Both spouses must work together in order to cultivate words that are like honeybees and not killer bees! We don’t want to speak to our spouses in such a way that our words are like swarms of angry killer bees that chase them down with the sole purpose of stinging them to death. No! We want to be intentional about maintaining life-affirming communication–a bee dance–with our spouses that yields sweetness. We don’t need to live in fear of our spouse’s words every time they open their mouths to talk to us. Beekeepers do not approach their bee colonies carelessly or hastily. They take care to make deliberate movements, and they wear a protective beekeeping suit. Before we handle our bees–our words–we must “put on love” and be deliberate about speaking kind words from a place of love from deep within our hives–our hearts–so that our words are not injurious! Love protects! 1 Corinthians 13:7 NIV says love “always protects….”
Also, Colossians 3:14 Amplified version states, ” And above all these [put on] love and enfold yourselves with the bond of perfectness [which binds everything together completely in ideal harmony]”. This verse illustrates to me that love is the perfect bond or building block that holds everything together in a pattern of harmony. The honeycombs’ hexagonal shape is thought to be a brilliant design that bees instinctively know how to construct as architects of their hives. Like the bees, we have to be architects of our words and intentionally put on love until it becomes a habit or a natural instinct. Love is the basic building block, and it is the only way for harmony to exist within a marriage. We can construct beautiful harmony with the words we use.
You may wonder at times, “How can I defuse a situation when angry words fly out beyond our control?” Once the swarm is out, it will not be ignored. Let’s look to the beekeepers! Beekeepers use bee smokers to send forth smoke into the angry swarms. The smoke calms the bees down and seems to mesmerize them into docileness. In the same manner, when we are confronted by our spouse’s angry, hurtful words, we can defuse the situation with kindness and be a blessing. Your kindness–smoke– confuses and disarms their anger so things settle back down.
Proverbs 15:1~ ” A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up anger.” Do not attempt to answer back with your own swarm of angry words because you will only stir up the anger even worse! Nothing worse than ending up with double the amount of anger!
Maintaining our words is a job in itself, but we can take a few pointers from beekeeping as keepers of our own marriages. We can use kind words, gracious words so that our words produce a sweetness that is rich and healing like honey!
Proverbs 16:24 ~ ” Pleasant words are as a honeycomb, sweet to the mind and healing to the body”
Amen! Be willing to work hard and diligently to maintain a bee-u-tiful marriage!
God bless you:)
Cassandra Salamone

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