Many have jumped onto the bandwagon that agrees with the culture of the world that a successful marriage is simply a happy marriage. I beg to differ and speak up to say that fruitful marriages do not necessarily indicate that husbands and wives are happy. The purpose of marriage is not as a means to our ends of achieving happiness. At least, that’s not why God designed marriage. God designed marriage to glorify Him and manifest the eternal love relationship that Jesus Christ has with His bride–the church (Eph. 5). I believe that if a husband and wife are in agreement with God’s design and bring Him glory, there will be times of happiness. However, happiness is not the point; holiness is the point!
With such a focus on what is temporal, one has to consider that a husband and wife who are experiencing brokenness and dealing with being sinned against by their spouse in their marriage are blessed with something greater than mere satisfaction when they allow God to be glorified in their suffering. They may not have a marriage that appears to be successful because there is a lack of happiness; but a marriage in which God is at work because at least one spouse honors their vows, has eternal rewards to anticipate.
” These hard times are small potatoes compared to the coming good times, the lavish celebration prepared for us.”
(2 Cor. 4:17).
If a couple has a happy marriage, by all means, they should give God the glory; but it is for naught if they only celebrate and announce it to give themselves a pat on the back. Truly, the marriage to be desired is one that is Christ-centered, in which, He gets the glory!
I embrace happy moments but do not make happiness the goal. Rather, I want a fruitful marriage that bears good fruit because I have chosen to walk in relation with Christ in His love! I want a marriage that produces an eternal harvest more than I desire one that focuses on satisfying personal happiness!
May God bless all covenant marriages and continue to be the Lifter of the heads of all those who may be suffering at this present time through trials in their marriage. Amen!
John 15, Message version :
” 15 1-3 “I am the Real Vine and my Father is the Farmer. He cuts off every branch of me that doesn’t bear grapes. And every branch that is grape-bearing he prunes back so it will bear even more. You are already pruned back by the message I have spoken.
4 “Live in me. Make your home in me just as I do in you. In the same way that a branch can’t bear grapes by itself but only by being joined to the vine, you can’t bear fruit unless you are joined with me.
5-8 “I am the Vine, you are the branches. When you’re joined with me and I with you, the relation intimate and organic, the harvest is sure to be abundant. Separated, you can’t produce a thing. Anyone who separates from me is deadwood, gathered up and thrown on the bonfire. But if you make yourselves at home with me and my words are at home in you, you can be sure that whatever you ask will be listened to and acted upon. This is how my Father shows who he is—when you produce grapes, when you mature as my disciples.
9-10 “I’ve loved you the way my Father has loved me. Make yourselves at home in my love. If you keep my commands, you’ll remain intimately at home in my love. That’s what I’ve done—kept my Father’s commands and made myself at home in his love.
11-15 “I’ve told you these things for a purpose: that my joy might be your joy, and your joy wholly mature. This is my command: Love one another the way I loved you. This is the very best way to love. Put your life on the line for your friends. You are my friends when you do the things I command you. I’m no longer calling you servants because servants don’t understand what their master is thinking and planning. No, I’ve named you friends because I’ve let you in on everything I’ve heard from the Father.
16 “You didn’t choose me, remember; I chose you, and put you in the world to bear fruit, fruit that won’t spoil. As fruit bearers, whatever you ask the Father in relation to me, he gives you.
17 “But remember the root command: Love one another.”
Cassandra Salamone ♥