I am a wife but not a doormat. A doormat is what is designed to be trampled upon and used to scourge debris such as mud and dirt clods from the bottoms of our shoes. A doormat is set apart at the entrance of a home to say “Welcome” and designates the area where guests are to “wipe their feet”. Doormats are for decoration as well, although they usually are not particularly beautiful. They are stepped upon and occasionally someone may remember to take it up from the entrance and beat the dust out of it with a broom. I am writing this for both men and women that everyone may take notice that God does not call for a submitted wife to be a doormat. Let’s see what God’s Word says about it.
Proverbs 18:22 New Living Translation says, “22 The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord.”
Proverbs 18:22 in the Message version says, “22 Find a good spouse, you find a good life—and even more: the favor of God!”
Further, the same verse in New King James Version says,”22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing, And obtains favor from the Lord.”
We look in Genesis and consider the creation of Eve the first wife to see what God purposed for us wives. Genesis 2:18 Message version states, “God said, “It’s not good for the Man to be alone; I’ll make him a helper, a companion.”
See in the following verses 19-23 ” So God formed from the dirt of the ground all the animals of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the Man to see what he would name them. Whatever the Man called each living creature, that was its name. The Man named the cattle, named the birds of the air, named the wild animals; but he didn’t find a suitable companion. 21-22 God put the Man into a deep sleep. As he slept he removed one of his ribs and replaced it with flesh. God then used the rib that he had taken from the Man to make Woman and presented her to the Man. 23 The Man said, “Finally! Bone of my bone, flesh of my flesh! Name her Woman for she was made from Man.” Therefore a man leaves his father and mother and embraces his wife. They become one flesh.” We can see that God did not form Adam’s wife from the dirt of the ground. No, He made the inferior creatures such as the birds and wild animals from the dirt of the ground. In order to make Adam his companion–his wife–God made her by fashioning her from one of Adam’s very own ribs!
Scripture lays to rest the misconceived notions that a wife is a discardable, unimportant and valueless commodity to her husband. Rather, Scripture highlights that God perceived Adam’s need for a wife–a man’s need for a woman–thus, we see that a wife is indeed a “good thing”! A wife is to be cherished, guarded, endeared to you, and certainly to be regarded higher in esteem than a “doormat”. A wife needs to be treated with care and not contempt. She is not some forgettable household good. Your wife is your flesh–is YOU!!!
Ephesians 5:22-33 Message version says, “22-28 Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands. Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor—since they’re already “one” in marriage.
29-33 No one abuses his own body, does he? No, he feeds and pampers it. That’s how Christ treats us, the church, since we are part of his body. And this is why a man leaves father and mother and cherishes his wife. No longer two, they become “one flesh.” This is a huge mystery, and I don’t pretend to understand it all. What is clearest to me is the way Christ treats the church. And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband.”
Thank You Father God for Your Word to instruct us and show Your sons how to treat Your daughters!!!
Blessings in every marriage according to Your plan! Amen :-}
Joyfully submitted wife~