I understand in many marriages, sometimes one spouse is an unbeliever. In one case, an unbelieving spouse may know God’s Word but chooses not to obey/walk in it. In another, he/she may not know the Word and may be uninterested in learning about it either. In some cases, the believing spouse may face derision, hostility, or taunting from their very own unbelieving spouse.
This brings up a question for many believing spouses: “Should I try to minister to my unbelieving spouse if he/she mocks at/scoffs at hearing God’s Word?”
As a believer, you will feel led to share, especially with your spouse! However, if he/she becomes angry or mocks you when you try to share God’s Word, you should not continue to try to tell them. No matter how gently you attempt to break it down or sneak it into the conversation, if your unbelieving spouse knocks it down, don’t raise it back up. You can minister without words–by your own chaste, obedient conduct and walk with the Lord. 1 Peter 3:1 “1 In like manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them], so that even if any do not obey the Word [of God], they may be won over not by discussion but by the [godly] lives of their wives,”.
We cannot teach him/her who will not receive it. If your husband or wife scoffs at God’s Word, you are not to persist in ministering it to him/her. It will only become a reason for dissension and resentment and that is contrary to the purpose of sharing it. Continue to live in peace and in right-standing with the commission the Lord has called you to fulfill.
John 3:27 “John replied, “No one can receive anything unless God gives it from heaven.”
Even Jesus speaks of this and says in Matthew 19:11 “But He said to them, Not all men can accept this saying, but it is for those to whom [the capacity to receive] it has been given.”
Matthew 13:13 “This is the reason that I speak to them in parables: because having the power of seeing, they do not see; and having the power of hearing, they do not hear, nor do they grasp and understand.”
John 14:17 “The Spirit of Truth, Whom the world cannot receive (welcome, take to its heart), because it does not see Him or know and recognize Him. But you know and recognize Him, for He lives with you [constantly] and will be in you.”
Understand that not everyone is able to receive Him. We cannot make anyone receive Him. Only God can give your husband/wife ears to hear His voice and eyes to see His truths. We can only plant a seed. You can do it without a word– by your own walk/conduct. God is the one who imparts understanding of it. He waters the seeds we plant and causes them to grow.
1 Corinthians 7:13-16 “And if any woman has an unbelieving husband and he consents to live with her, she should not leave or divorce him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is set apart (separated, withdrawn from heathen contamination, and affiliated with the Christian people) by union with his consecrated (set-apart) wife, and the unbelieving wife is set apart and separated through union with her consecrated husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean (unblessed heathen, outside the Christian covenant), but as it is they are prepared for God [pure and clean].
15 But if the unbelieving partner [actually] leaves, let him do so; in such [cases the remaining] brother or sister is not morally bound. But God has called us to peace.
16 For, wife, how can you be sure of converting and saving your husband? Husband, how can you be sure of converting and saving your wife?”