When a couple announces their wedding date to their loved ones, it’s almost as if the starting bugle is blown at the Kentucky Derby! Sheer excitement is unleashed, and a flurry of planning by the bride, mothers, aunts, sisters, and girlfriends gallops ahead without delay. Bets are placed; and the bride races against the clock to make the necessary preparations:
~Matching wedding bands that don’t have to be custom-made
~Find the perfect bridal gown that will complement her figure and make her look and feel like a princess
~Shoes; hair/makeup artists; ceremony colors and decor
~Invitations, programs, and wedding photography
~Bridesmaids dresses that are easy on her friends’ wallets and don’t resemble 80’s-era prom dresses
~Set the appointment for groom’s tux fitting
~Book the trendiest ceremony and reception venues–the bigger the better because it’s her day to shine!
~Wedding cake with edible flowers and flavored mousse filling
~Limousine or classic car rental
~The most impressive and exotic honeymoon getaway their parents can afford–white sand and clear ocean water and zebras too
Judging by the list, it appears that this bride has everything covered. She has made many preparations for the wedding; but she has overlooked two very important details. There’s no need to fret! They won’t cost her a penny more and don’t require her to leave the comfort of her powder room.
If a bride doesn’t look to herself–to her own heart–and ask the Lord to help her to be the wife her future husband needs, it could cost her one leg of the race. A bride can rush around the turn in a frenzy with her wedding checklist in hand; but if she doesn’t ask God to check her and spur her on in His power, she will lose her advantage.
Furthermore, the last detail–but definitely not least–is key to the entire purpose of the race (marriage). The bride mustn’t overlook the fact that her marriage is NOT all about her and her husband. The true star of marriage is God!!! She must be ready to bring glory to Him by modeling Christ-like love for her husband. Marriage is meant to highlight the love Christ has for the church. A wife who fears God will surrender her will for His and allow herself to be used by Him to display Christ–all to His glory! A Triple Crown winning marriage, indeed!
Please, Father God, guide me in this marriage and help me to be the wife you desire me to be. Show me all the things that I need to change in my heart. Give me understanding of Your Word. Bring Titus 2 women into my life who will mentor me and offer counsel that is in agreement with Your ways. Teach me Your ways to be the best wife I can be. Remind me that our ceremony is for one day, but our marriage is for our lifetime. Teach me how I can best prepare myself to be a bride of beauty as You describe in 1 Peter 3:1-6*. Show me how to be a daughter of Sarah. Thank You for this opportunity to experience love with a man according to Your design. You are Holy; and You are good!!! In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.”
Father, let thy will be done in my marriage as Your Word says in Ephesians 5:23-33*.
Once a bride addresses these final points on her checklist, the race is in her favor; and she can cross the finish line with the winning name: “Wife Who Wins by the Grace of God”!
*1 Peter 3:1-6 AMP.~ “In like manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them], so that even if any do not obey the Word [of God], they may be won over not by discussion but by the [godly] lives of their wives,
2 When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him—to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband].3 Let not yours be the [merely] external adorning with [elaborate] interweaving and knotting of the hair, the wearing of jewelry, or changes of clothes;
4 But let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very precious in the sight of God.5 For it was thus that the pious women of old who hoped in God were [accustomed] to beautify themselves and were submissive to their husbands [adapting themselves to them as themselves secondary and dependent upon them].
6 It was thus that Sarah obeyed Abraham [following his guidance and acknowledging his headship over her by] calling him lord (master, leader, authority). And you are now her true daughters if you do right and let nothing terrify you [not giving way to hysterical fears or letting anxieties unnerve you].”
*Ephesians 5:23-33 AMP.~ “23 For the husband is head of the wife as Christ is the Head of the church, Himself the Savior of [His] body.24 As the church is subject to Christ, so let wives also be subject in everything to their husbands.25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her,
26 So that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word,27 That He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such things [that she might be holy and faultless].28 Even so husbands should love their wives as [being in a sense] their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself.
29 For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the church,30 Because we are members (parts) of His body.31 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.32 This mystery is very great, but I speak concerning [the relation of] Christ and the church.
33 However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly].”