Sex between a husband and his wife is a sacred song—a holy and righteous opus written by God. The chords of sexual intimacy are to be played within the confines of marriage. God wants us to enjoy our spouse! Our bodies are instruments on loan from God to be exclusively handled and played by our spouse with great ardor!
Repeat the previous sentence aloud to yourself or to your spouse and meditate upon the key word “ardor”. Merriam-Webster’s online dictionary provides the origin for “ardor” as being: “Middle English ardour, from Anglo-French & Latin; Anglo-French, from Latin ardor burning, heat..” In addition, the following words are Merriam-Webster’s synonyms for “ardor”: “ardency, emotion, enthusiasm, fervency, fervidness, fervor, fire, heat, intenseness, intensity, passion, passionateness, vehemence, warmth, white heat.” Consider your level of focus as you study and play your instrument with ardor 🙂
We are to be our spouse’s instructor and exercise patience and loving kindness. We must generously schedule time for private instructions in order to demonstrate and practice proper hand positioning and theory (rhythm, harmony, form, and allocation of voices). As the rehearsals increase in frequency, the performance becomes more fluid, elegant, and perfected. All Glory to Adonai, our Master Composer, especially when the opus resonates in perfect pitch!
Martha Peace, in her book “The Excellent Wife”, shares, “Some wives believe that their husbands know everything about sex, and they (the wives) shouldn’t have to tell them anything. That’s not true. Only the wife can know for herself what is pleasurable for her. She should lovingly take his hand and guide him to the parts of her body she would like him to caress…Doctor Wayne Mack gives this illustration,’My wife has been scratching my back for years, and she has yet to hit the right spot the first time!’ ”
~ Cassandra Salamone